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Gráinne Patterson

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Gráinne is an Irish Pākehā writer and essayist living in Te Whanganui a Tara. Her work explores family dynamics and how they have shaped her relentless search for ways to be a well-adjusted adult human. She holds a masters in creative nonfiction from the IIML.

The idea that asking someone if they’re feeling suicidal will “put the idea in their head” is a common misconception. (Image: Tina Tiller)

It’s OK to ask a loved one if they’re feeling suicidal

In fact, it’s a critical first step to helping them.

By Gráinne Patterson | 17th May, 2024

When you cry, the blur of your tears makes him look exactly like your dad, which makes you cry more. (Image: Tina Tiller)

Tips and tricks for when your therapist looks like your dad

Tip one: let yourself be nurtured by this big old man. Tip two: don't ask him to adopt you.

By Gráinne Patterson | 4th May, 2024

“I promise that I love you in this precise moment and I will reevaluate that love constantly based on your behaviour towards me.” (Images by Tina Tiller)

Dreaming of my not-wedding day

What does a forever relationship look like when you don't believe in marriage? And how do you celebrate it?

By Gráinne Patterson | 26th April, 2024