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ParentsMarch 30, 2017

What school librarians wish parents knew

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School libraries are a sanctuary and safe place for many children. Here Sarah Forster, co-creator of the amazing children’s literature website The Sapling, lists the things all parents should know about school librarians.

I spent a LOT of time in school libraries as a kid. Remember the index cards in those fit-for-purpose filing cabinets? Remember the satisfying thwack of the date stamp (if you were allowed to use it)? Remember picking out that one book that felt like home? Or that one book that you had to share with your friends?

My first school was a small rural school, and the school library was our hall: we sang in it, rehearsed in it, and huddled away from the rain in it. I went there when I was feeling vulnerable. It was a sanctuary.

Last week on the news it was highlighted that there are over 170 schools in New Zealand that don’t have school libraries because they needed the space for classrooms. My son’s school is one of them. They do have a library, a tiny library, in a borrowed resource area attached to a language school on the campus. The librarian does her best. Their state of the art library was opened less than 10 years ago; it was last year demolished to create two classrooms. We have plenty of books at home (a luxury afforded by my jobs): it is the sanctuary that will be missed. My son is a quiet kid, has had moments of anxiety since at school. These are the kids the libraries help.

The reason I note this is that for the past six months, Jane Arthur and I have been labouring to create The Sapling, a site celebrating children’s literature – because books grow humans. One of our monthly features is an interview with a school librarian from somewhere in New Zealand. Our first two are Desna Wallace from Fendalton Open Air School in Christchurch and Kimberley Atkinson from Robertson Road School in Mangere.

Christchurch school librarian Desna Wallace

My healthy respect for school librarians has turned into awe. Here are a few things I’ve learned about school librarians, that all parents should know.

They are passionate about literature.

“My philosophy around children’s literature is based on passion, pure and simple,” says Christchurch librarian Desna. “Passion for the written word, passion for the art of illustrations and passion for the belief that children’s literature is one of the most powerful tools to engage, inspire, entertain, excite, confront or challenge, and move readers into making connections between themselves and the characters they believe in.”

They know that reading is a family activity.

“I organise and run the Reading Together programme for whanau,” says Kimberley, the South Auckland librarian. “This is a nationwide reading programme which helps show families the importance of reading to and with family members. It is a 4 week programme with families attending weekly sessions at school. We open the library up for membership and families are able to borrow an unlimited amount of resources. It is really lovely watching the progress and even the relationships within families changing from the simple act of reading to and with their children.”

They don’t just issue books. They do whatever is needed all for ‘support staff’ pay.

“There is no typical day in the school library,” says Kimberley. “You may plan for something (ie research skills) and the class does not turn up. There may be multiple relievers and if the class is young, they will require all the help they can get. I may be sent urgent photocopying.  I may get an urgent request for books on random topics, journal articles, be interrupted while reading to a class for extra journal copies. I can have a class researching in the library; the library class may turn up and then another group of students. Students may turn up for shoes…”.

The library at Fendalton Open Air School in Christchurch

They can see what is needed to extend a reader.

“For my Year Six book club I take a group of dedicated students who read reasonably well but don’t challenge themselves,” says Desna. “I supply each student with a key ring and a notebook. There is no obligation to write in the notebook but I do encourage them to write at least the name of the book and author and perhaps a quote or two from the book where the words jumped out at them. We start with the same book so I can gauge their reading comprehension, emotional attitude and reactions. From there they have a wide selection to choose from. Many choose to read the same book. As they read each book, depending on the genre, they collect tags (simple laminated card) which they attach to the key ring. They love the little tags and feel special belonging to the club.”

They fill a deep need for books in communities, and can see where the gaps are.

“I believe children need to be drowned in real paper books,” says Kimberley. “Piles of them. Particularly in this community where children have little access to books and few visit the community libraries, we need to fill this gap at school. They need a wide variety to choose from and with as much diversity as possible. Having their cultures recognised within reading material is extremely important. There is an urgent need for more Pasifika-based material (I cannot under-estimate the huge, huge need from schools with Pasifika students for this material) – whether in print or on-line.”

They are sanctuaries.

“Libraries as a physical place offer a safe haven for many students,” says Desna. “It is a place for students to blob out and escape the noise and demands of classrooms. It is a place to curl up with a book, or chat with friends. It is a sanctuary for students who don’t do sport, or students who struggle socially to fit in or perhaps because they are new to the school and feeling a bit lost. Students who might feel bullied come to the library because it is safe, warm and they can be themselves. After the earthquakes, I had many students who would come and share their experiences and fears.  Some just wanted to talk or snuggle up somewhere safe with a free hug thrown in.”

At The Sapling, we’re going to look at children’s literature seriously. We’ve already started to do so. We’re going to talk to writers and illustrators, thought leaders, librarians and publishers. We’re going to investigate and celebrate our children’s books. We have people submitting the most fantastic ideas for articles on a daily basis. It is clear that we have tapped into a rich stream of children’s book-lovers. Come and join us!

Sarah Forster has been working in books for over a decade, and fell in love with children’s books while running education programmes at the NZ Book Council. She is a founding editor of The Sapling, a new website all about children’s books. She has two young sons, who have very different tastes in books.

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3 under 3

ParentsMarch 29, 2017

Yes, my hands are full: What it’s really like to have three under three

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Angela Cuming has three children under three – all boys. Here she talks about the joys and challenges of her family life.

My name is Angela, I have three boys under three and I haven’t slept in three-and-half years.

There’s Charlie, he came first and when he was 20 months old we welcomed identical twins Tommy and Henry into the world.

People always seem curious about how we cope, or don’t cope, and I can confirm that yes, we do have our hands full.

There are three babies in this photo.
There are three babies in this photo.

Sleep, or lack of it, is the real killer. Charlie is almost three and has only just started to sort-of sleep through the night, but if he does wake and call out for me he usually wakes a twin up, or vice-versa.

Despite being identical twins, Tommy and Henry have very different ideas about sleep. Henry appears to love it but his brother Tommy will wake two or three times each night and bangs his head on the cot mattress to “self-soothe” himself back to sleep.

My husband and I often swap daydreams about what illness or injury we would like to get, something that makes us sick enough to have to spend a few days in hospital on bed rest without feeling guilty about leaving the other at home to deal with the boys. He actually once wound up in hospital because he thought he was having a heart attack.

The boys start to wake from about 4am each day and their eventual bedtime can be anywhere from 6pm to 10pm. Forget all that “expert advice” about getting twins on the same routine, I am flat out remembering who is who and have they actually been fed. And yes, I still get them mixed up. Tommy mercifully has a birthmark on the back of his neck for quick identification.

Meals (because there is no set “mealtime”, ever) are literally a moving feast. I get so sick of plopping the twins in their high chairs and pulling them out again that I end up crawling after them on the floor, shoving bits of pre-cooked Hellers sausage into their mouth. Charlie is easier to deal with as he only eats cheese sandwiches, of which I make about 17 a day. He eats about two of them, but hey, the birds are well fed.

All three are still in nappies, so when I am not feeding them I am changing them. Our bins get so full that my husband has to wait until bin night and, under the cover of darkness, will place black bin bags in neighbours’ driveways because we always exceed the two-bag limit.

Going out by myself with all three is almost impossible. I tried once, to a local shopping centre, and it ended with the toddler throwing the mother of all tantrums and refusing to walk back to the car so a stranger had to carry him for me.

Parks and playgrounds are OK, but the twins will always crawl off in different directions while Charlie wants me to help him down the slide, and by the time we get there anyway at least one baby wants feeding or needs to go home for a nap and that’s too unfair on their big brother.

I can never do things like pop them in the car to pick up a few things from the supermarket. A grocery shop is something I have to do late at night when they are all in bed, but it’s sadly fun for me because it gets me out of the house. I take them to Playcentre twice a week, which has saved me, and them, from virtual house arrest.

Everyone said it would get easier when the twins turned one, but to be honest it’s getting harder. They want to walk but can’t, and cry in frustration. They bite me when they are teething, and if you turn your back on them for a second they are opening drawers and tipping over toy boxes and eating old food off the floor.

But we muddle through each day, and each day does eventually end and they all do eventually go to sleep.

Some days are harder than others, like when they are sick or I am dog tired and all they want to do it play. I’ve sat on the twins’ bedroom floor at 3am and sobbed and locked myself in the en suite at lunchtime to take a few deep breaths and drink a cold cup of tea.

Do I have moments where I wish I was things were different? Sure, and I bet everybody does. The twins weren’t planned, and boy they were a surprise. I never realised identical twins don’t run in families, they are a kind of freak of nature, and they can strike anyone at any time. We had decided we only wanted two children, and I still feel wistful at times about the “singleton” baby I never had.

But then, just when you think it can’t possibly get any harder I find the twins sitting outside in the sun happily picking daisies from the lawn and Charlie will look over and say “mama, I love Tommy and Henry, they are my little brothers”.

And I guess that’s it, the secret of why all us parents do what we do. It’s all for them. And it’s a job I wouldn’t swap for all the sleep in the world.

Angela Cuming is a print and radio journalist and a mum to three boys under three. Follow her on Twitter.

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