Meghan Markle stands in at the bench in an all white kitchen and prepares to make a meal
The Duchess of Sussex prepares to chop up some fruit (Photo: Netflix)

Pop CultureMarch 14, 2025

With Love, Meghan is terrible – I can’t stop watching it

Meghan Markle stands in at the bench in an all white kitchen and prepares to make a meal
The Duchess of Sussex prepares to chop up some fruit (Photo: Netflix)

Tara Ward watches Meghan Markle’s new Netflix lifestyle series and finds herself held hostage by a rainbow fruit platter.

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Meghan Markle wants us to find love in the details. The Duchess of Sussex’s new lifestyle series With Love, Meghan debuted on Netflix earlier this month and immediately shot into the New Zealand top 10, proving that even this corner of the Commonwealth loves a detail too. Every episode sees Meghan Markle invite a guest over for a special event – a kids’ party (without kids) or a game night (in the middle of the day) – as she showers them with hospitality. Meghan Markle loves making people happy and she wants to show us how to make people happy too. The secret? Just make them a rainbow fruit platter.

We’ve had Meghan Markle the television star and Meghan Markle the princess, and now With Love, Meghan seems to be heralding the era of Meghan Markle the tradwife. But this isn’t Meghan Markle in her own kitchen, because instead of using Meghan and Harry’s multi-million dollar Californian home, With Love was filmed in a property down the road. The garden is spectacular, the kitchen immaculate and it comes with thousands of jars, bowls and baskets for Meghan to gift to her pals. Just as well, because Meghan Markle is all about the little things.

When I began watching, those little things made me roll my eyes so hard they almost fell out of my head and into Meghan Markle’s freshly baked focaccia. Every moment in Meghan’s kitchen is an opportunity for joy. The burden of domestic labour? She doesn’t live here. Instead, Meghan Markle finds so much pleasure in the ordinary that at times it’s like she’s an alien who just landed on Earth and is trying to become human. “What is the taste? What is the smell? What is the music you’re playing? Is that just as inspiring?” Meghan urges us to consider, as she prepares to… chop up fruit and make a rainbow out of it.

As Meghan makes a semi-circle from grapes and blueberries, birds begin to sing. “I love birdsong!” Meghan announces. “How fun!” she squeals after dipping donuts in glaze. She describes building a balloon arch as “a fascinating adventure” and when her friend Mindy Kaling comes over, Meghan shows her how to use a cookie cutter to make sandwiches into star shapes. She is literally smooshing two bits of bread together and calling it a moment. “It’s a real delight to be a present parent,” she says. Her kids are nowhere to be seen.

After watching four episodes that included Meghan Markle making tea by putting a teabag in water and leaving it outside for hours – on purpose – I was exhausted and bewildered. I needed one of her refreshing facecloths that had been dipped in chilled lavender water and rolled onto a platter, especially after Kaling asked why things taste better on a tiered plate and Meghan replied it was because you were literally elevating the food. Meghan kept reassuring us she was aiming for joy rather than perfection, but it was hard to look at those tiny tomato ladybirds arranged on a piece of crostini cut on the bias and believe her.

But by episode five, something happened to me. Maybe the show improved or maybe I became completely numb, but I found myself Googling “hemp hearts” and wondering what flowers I could put into ice cubes for the dinner parties I’ll never have the energy to throw. The show’s clean, neutral palate soothed me, Meghan’s calming voice had me hypnotised. I sat in awe of how she fried bacon without ruining her white linen shirt, and dreamed about how she froze her food scraps in water and gave it to her chickens. I cooked a meal that would have definitely been improved by a sprinkle of dried flowers. I even wondered if I should buy a dehydrator.

Maybe Meghan Markle was right. Maybe the little things do matter.

By episode seven, I couldn’t look away. I was being held hostage by a rainbow fruit platter and some supermarket carnations. I couldn’t relate to a single thing in this series and yet I started to think about what I would do with Meghan Markle if she invited me over. She would probably take me into her bountiful garden and show me her enormous heirloom tomatoes and I would tell her about how this summer it took me five long months to grow four pathetic cherry tomatoes. I would cackle at my many inadequacies and my new BFF would laugh too, softly like a Californian zephyr breeze, though a sadness in her eyes would hint at a touch of disappointment.

By episode 10, I decided that after a fun day of freezing food scraps together, Meghan Markle would send me home with a generous basket filled with vegetables she spent all morning harvesting. The next morning, I would wake at sunrise to find her in my garden, secretly sprinkling compost from her copper-lidded compost bin and reading individual hand-written notes aloud to each of my vegetables, making them feel valued and important so that next season I could build a beautiful harvest basket of my own.

“If you take a little bit of time, it will be noticed and appreciated,” Meghan Markle would tell both me and my cabbages, while I hoovered down her gift of a jar of her homemade strawberry preserve. After I spilled the jam all down my white linen shirt, we would hold hands and I would thank her and she would thank me and we would be friends forever. We would write “bready or not” on my own pantry blackboard and then I would remind her: “we’re not in the pursuit of perfection, we’re in the pursuit of joy”.

There would, of course, be birdsong.

With Love, Meghan streams on Netflix. Birdsong is everywhere.

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The most energetic choir performance these reviewers had ever seen (Image: Leonardo Hiraga)

Pop CultureMarch 14, 2025

With the Soweto Gospel Choir, the dancing just keeps going

a group of men leapin in the air with white tshirts and blue jeans and shining projection on the ceiling
The most energetic choir performance these reviewers had ever seen (Image: Leonardo Hiraga)

Shanti Mathias and Gabi Lardies review a sweaty, ecstatic night at the Auckland Arts Festival.

“Imagine a dance floor, the world’s greatest gospel choir and a DJ set for the ages” is the tantalising description of History of House provided by Auckland Arts Festival. It definitely wasn’t just Gabi and I who thought this sounded like a great time – the line to get into the Town Hall went all the way past Aotea Square, and the promised dance floor was packed. 

The event is supposedly themed around house music, admittedly not a genre I’m particularly familiar with – I’ve spent much more time listening to my mum’s African music CDs than I have in clubs with DJs. While theoretically supposed to educate people about house music and how it emerged out of disco, this mostly turned out to be DJ Simon Lewicki (Groove Terminator) spouting platitudes like “once people found meaning on the dance floor, it couldn’t be stopped” and “gay or straight, black or white, everyone belongs in the club”. 

That said, these occasional pauses did play an important role: there was so much dancing that, despite the cool March evening outside, it was HOT. Two people behind me were passing around a handheld fan, and people were ducking out to get cold drinks from the bar. At least those of us on the dance floor were mostly confined to bopping in our 60 square centimetres of space: the Soweto performers on the stage were dancing, twerking, clapping their hands, as well as singing their hearts out. Whenever there was a pause, they stopped for water and to mop off the sweat. 

While the house music didn’t particularly thrill me – I knew very few of the songs – I loved the energy of the show, which was enough to get lots of people with seated tickets up and dancing too. While each individual singer was strong, I particularly loved it when they added complex harmonies to the house music beats. This felt like a true fusion of styles, working with the straightforward lyrics of dance music and making it more musically textured. 

a black woman with a colourful headband sings into a microphone, spotlit on stage
Each singer comes to the front for solo or smaller group parts during songs (Image: Will Bucquoy)

I also attended the choir’s Hope concert the day before, and could see some of the same patterns in both shows. In “History of House” and “Hope” there was extensive reference to the US civil rights movement, including playing footage of Martin Luther King’s “Let Freedom Ring” speech. While the words are powerful, and the sentiment inarguable, it rang a little hollow. South Africa, where the Soweto Gospel Choir is from, has an incredibly important racial struggle of its own, so why not refer to one of Nelson Mandela’s rousing speeches? Given the political message, why not reference that in terms of New Zealand, Australia or South Africa, rather than the US? 

For me, the parts of the Hope concert I enjoyed most weren’t the English language covers of songs like ‘Hallelujah’ and ‘Heaven Help Us All’. Instead, the songs in South African languages, six of the 12 official languages of the country, were the most enjoyable. While I didn’t understand the words, amazing breakdancing and high kicks from the choir helped add another layer of interpretation to the words. I especially loved that the choir didn’t just interact with each other with their voices, but with their bodies, moving around on stage, raising their hands, leaning towards each other. At the History of House show, they also interacted with the sign language interpreters. 

But the best part of both performances was the unabashed energy the choir put in, creating a truly joyful spectacle. / Shanti Mathias

snazzy projects bracket a blue toned photo of three black men crouching as they sing into the microphone with more singers in the back
The choir is a non-stop spectacle with snazzy projections throughout (Image: Leonardo Hiraga)

One of the things I enjoy most in life is dancing. Don’t get me wrong – I have zero training, zero talent and zero moves beyond bopping and disco hands – this is not about being good, it is about the feeling of moving to a beat and being free in your body. Sometimes, it is about sharing this feeling with other people who are also little leaves in the breeze of the beat. History of House promised just that and more – the Soweto Gospel Choir. They are beloved regulars to the Auckland Arts Festival, but I’ve not yet had a chance to see them. 

All seats in the stalls area of the town hall were gone, and instead hundreds of Aucklanders were packed in, heating and moistening up the air. Never ever had I seen so many people out on a Wednesday night. The case for Tāmaki Makaurau being a real city grows. Being both a touch vertically challenged, Shanti and I made our way to a spot near the front, where we had a clear view of the choir in their baggy coloured pants and matching T-shirts with a purple burst printed on the front. 

DJ Groove Terminator may have been in the middle, but it was the choir our eyes were trained on. They took turns leading songs, synchronised their dancing, and encouraged the crowd to clap along. 

Do I know much about house music? Absolutely not. But when bangers like Chic’s ‘Le Freak’ and Donna Summer’s ‘I Feel Love’ came on I was feeling it. My limbs were jingling and jangling to New Order’s ‘Blue Monday’ and I sang along to Madonna’s ‘Like a Prayer.’ The selection followed a historical progression starting in the 1970s and presumably leading up today, though only the 1970s and 1980s got little spoken introductions from DJ Groove Terminator. DJs are not usually given a microphone and a part of me wished things had stayed that way. As Shanti mentioned, many platitudes were thrown out and I would have preferred that the music simply continued. It is possible though, that these interludes served as essential breaks for the choir, who quickly sipped water or wiped their brows. 

At times it seemed the musical selection went a little off topic. I struggled to understand how a remix of Aretha Franklin’s ‘R-E-S-P-E-C-T’ or a reworking of ‘Hallelujah’ fit in and I found myself wanting more House. Still, it’s hard to imagine a better combination of talent, fun and genre bending. We left sweaty with wonderfully tired legs, amazed at the energy the choir had given for the whole 90 minutes. I am considering painting a purple burst on one of my T-shirts. / Gabi Lardies