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In 1967 New Zealanders voted on pub closing times.
In 1967 New Zealanders voted on pub closing times.

OPINIONSocietyOctober 12, 2020

I’m 80 years old. I’ve never touched cannabis. And I’ve changed my mind on legalisation

In 1967 New Zealanders voted on pub closing times.
In 1967 New Zealanders voted on pub closing times.

In 1967 I changed my mind on another referendum, about six o’clock closing, writes Roderick Aldridge.

I am an 80-year-old Pākehā male who has never smoked or used cannabis in my life. And I will be voting to legalise cannabis in the coming referendum.

This might seem absurd. My instinctive reaction, I expect like most people’s, is against anything that will increase the use of cannabis and the harm it causes. But then when I researched and thought about it, I completely changed my mind.

This is not the first time I have changed my mind like this. Back in 1967 there was a referendum on whether to end the six o’clock closing of pubs. At the time I was a teetotaller (I basically still am) and against anything that increased drinking alcohol and the harm it caused.

But I could see that the attempt to control drinking to before 6pm was backfiring – it had led to the infamous “six o’clock swill”. It set up a binge-drinking culture which persists to this day and has resisted all attempts to change to a culture of drinking in moderation. Also the law was not widely respected. It was more rigidly enforced in poorer areas. Wealthier people could belong to private clubs under different rules. Therefore, this teetotaller voted to end six o’clock closing.

Source: Happiness depends on the home! Help preserve family harmony. Vote 6 o’clock closing. [ca 1948].. Ref: Eph-C-ALCOHOL-Hours-1948-02. Alexander Turnbull Library, Wellington, New Zealand. /records/23085171
Similarly our cannabis control measures are not working. They have not worked for more than 40 years. More people are using cannabis than ever. Also cannabis has been joined by methamphetamine and other drugs which can cause far greater problems.

Cannabis use was already a problem and there was already a black market in 1975 but the 1975 Misuse of Drugs Act turned the problem into a disaster. This is because the Act made users into criminals just for trying it.

Young and vulnerable people have always taken risks, including experimenting with drugs, so the Act didn’t stop this. Instead it it put them into the hands of a market controlled by criminals with an incentive to grow their profits by getting vulnerable teenagers and others hooked on cannabis and other drugs. Many continue to get hooked on cannabis with the consequences we are all too familiar with.

Inevitably mutual antagonism and mistrust has developed and intensified between police and the people who use cannabis – and the often marginalised communities where they live.

As long as cannabis use is illegal most users will not trust any assurances that they will be helped instead of being penalised. If they are Māori, Pasifika or other marginalised groups they probably already know family, friends, or schoolmates who have been busted, suspended or expelled.

Making somebody addicted to a drug into a criminal is personal for me because someone close to me became addicted to heroin. She was molested by a trusted family friend. Like many others who have been molested she was trying to escape the stigma and feelings of worthlessness. She never sought help from us. She died of a heroin overdose – whether deliberate or accidental we will never know. We don’t criminalise those addicted to alcohol so why on earth do we criminalise those addicted to cannabis and other drugs? It is just about the worst thing you can do to them.

What they need is help to overcome their addiction and probably also to deal with the underlying problems/traumas which led them to get addicted in the first place. Instead they have to admit to being a criminal before asking for help – so they don’t ask for help or get it – so their addiction continues and deepens.

The only way to fix this is to make cannabis use legal and to take supply out of the hands of criminals. Nothing less will break through the wall of mutual mistrust built up between the police and marginalised communities by the 45 year “war on drugs”.

Whatever you call it  unconscious bias, a legacy of colonialism, or anything else, it’s clear Māori are disproportionately harmed by our drug laws. Legalising cannabis use is the only way to avoid the law being selectively applied by a police and justice system biased against already marginalised communities.

(Gif: Toby Morris)

Happily, the Cannabis Control Bill is designed to treat cannabis use as a health issue and to set up a (safe as possible) legal supply of cannabis so that anyone using cannabis doesn’t have to go to criminals or become a criminal themselves. Instead they will be free to seek help if they develop an addiction and for any underlying problems. They will be able to seek help to live constructive lives instead of being pushed into a life of crime.

Other states and countries have moved away from punitive laws. The government has used these experiences to design the safest and most effective system they know how for New Zealand. It avoids the development of a profitable and powerful industry such as the liquor industry which has prevented better control of alcohol in New Zealand. Māori and others have suggested further improvements which could be made before the bill is passed after the election. Even as it stands it could be part of a programme reverse the growing harm cased by the misuse of drugs.

Suddenly, voting to legalise cannabis and help people who have become addicted live constructive lives doesn’t seem absurd at all. In fact, it seems absurd to ruin anyone’s life by turning them into criminals at great human and financial cost to us all.

That is why this 80-year-old Pākehā male who has never used cannabis will vote yes to change New Zealand for the better. I urge you to do the same.


Everything you need to know about the 2020 cannabis referendum

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SocietyOctober 11, 2020

‘Soul-destroying’: What conversion therapy in NZ looks like

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Image: The Spinoff

After two unsuccessful petitions in 2019, Labour is finally promising to ban conversion therapy in the upcoming election. Sherry Zhang talks to Anna* about what conversion therapy was like and what a ban on its practise would mean. 

“It makes me want to cry. It makes me feel seen, like I’m not just making shit up.” That’s how Anna, who underwent conversion therapy as a young adult, describes the news that Labour will ban the controversial practice if re-elected.

Conversion therapy is a pseudoscientific technique that attempts to change or suppress someone’s sexual orientation or gender identity through shaming, emotional manipulation and/or physical trauma. The practice is primarily used within religious communities and has been linked to severe mental health issues, including depression and suicidal ideation. It has already been banned in Queensland, Madrid and Ontario, and specifically for minors in Germany, Ecuador and Brazil. 

National leader Judith Collins also opposes conversion therapy. “I’m a parent and I have said to my son, and I hope other parents would also say this, ‘Just be who you are!’ That’s unconditional love … Not trying to convert your child to anything else,” she told Gay Express. Still, the party has no policy on conversion therapy – or any rainbow policies – for the 2020 election. Along with Labour, the Greens, the Māori Party and The Opportunities Party have also voiced support for a conversion therapy ban

A ban would make it in an offence for people, entities, or organisations to offer, advertise or perform conversion therapy on another person. This includes performing conversion therapy as a professional, such as health practitioner, teacher or social worker. It would also make it an offence to knowingly remove a person from New Zealand for the purposes of conversion therapy. 

So what does this damaging practice look like in New Zealand? Anna, who grew up in a tight-knit church community in Hamilton, talked to The Spinoff about what the experience was like for her.

For a long time, Church was the only source of community Anna had. So it was immensely traumatic when prayer groups turned into conversion therapy.  (Photo: Getty Images)

What was it like learning about your sexuality? 

I always knew I was attracted to women. But I didn’t think it meant anything. It was only when I was around 18 years old, that someone I had a crush on had a crush on me back! I was like “woah, I’m not straight”, and it’s been a fucking whirlwind since then. 

What kind of experiences did you have with the church? 

When I was about 16, our youth pastor sat down and had a chat with us about homosexuality. She said, “you might feel like you’ve got some feelings for your friends who are the same sex as you, but it’s just a phase because you’re going through puberty”. 

I remember arguing with her: “But my cousin’s gay, and she’s old. So it can’t be puberty”. Our pastor also always told us that her husband was never her type, but one day she looked at him, and thought “wow I’m kinda attracted to him.” So I questioned her, what’s the difference? I asked because it didn’t make logical sense to me. 

A lot of people were homophobic behind each others’ backs in the church. I used to live in this house of church leadership and someone who was a lesbian had found us on this Christian flatmate website and came and viewed the flat.  After she left, everyone was like “ew no, what if I want to shower and walk around in my towel?” After that, we had a church dinner at someone’s house and it just went on and on, them expressing their disgust. At that point, I was out to myself. 

That’s a lot to take in. You mentioned that you came out of the closet and then went back in. What happened?

When I first came out, I had people picking me up from my house to take me to prayer circles. It was confusing because they were telling me to go to the healers because I was hurt. But I was hurt because I was having moral conflicts – they thought I was hurt because I had fucking demons inside of me. 

I cared about these people a lot and so I’d go with them. I felt pretty coerced into it. What else was I going to do with these people showing up at my house? Everything felt overwhelming so I moved to a new town. But the only way I knew how to make friends was through church. So I went back to church and I went back into the closet because I wasn’t going to be able to make friends otherwise. 

A lot of people, think of conversion therapy as structured camps. But for you, it was people you loved and cared about turning up at your doorstep.

Absolutely. The second time I came out, I was still living in that church leadership house. I had these people I thought were going to be my bridesmaids telling me to watch videos of Sy Rogers. He was someone who used to preach about being an ex-gay Christian and so they’d send me these links. Or I’d get home and [his videos] would just be on the TV because “if you really loved us, you’d just sit down and watch it”.

Sy Rogers would say: “I’m married with a wife now and kids, but I still have to be careful when looking at men so I’m not tempted.” Well you’re still gay then, aren’t you? I just couldn’t take it seriously. You’re still fucking gay, you’ve just dragged your wife and kids into it. 

I had people doing prayer, sending me bible verses every day. People telling me they couldn’t be my friend anymore, and threatening to leave the church if I didn’t leave. 

I have the misfortune of being friends with people who’ve been exposed as being paid conversion therapists. Sometimes I still feel funny talking about conversion therapy because it doesn’t look like me sitting in a therapist’s office going through that. It looks like pastors taking me out for coffee. 

What did it feel like for you during that time?

These are people that I loved so I felt pretty mad at myself. I literally went on top of a mountain and shouted at God, “WHY ME?” It was pretty soul-destroying, and that time in my life could have been the end of my life. But it wasn’t, thankfully. It felt like I was being ripped apart by my community. People were saying stuff like “we can’t have the youth thinking it’s OK to be gay, we can’t have people being like you”.

How did you start healing from that experience? 

It was a long process. I started going to actual therapy and my therapist said: “I’m so excited for you. You’re a beautiful, charming and intelligent person. And I’m excited for your future.” It really stuck with me. It made me feel powerful because I felt so weak against the church for so long. I couldn’t even walk down the street, because [other members of the church] would cross the road to avoid me.  

I wasn’t specifically trying to heal about my sexuality but heal as a person. I was trying to remember that I’m not a bad person. I’m a good person. 

What’s your relationship with the church now?

Even with all these people telling me these shitty things, I was still committed to my faith [for some time]. I used to think about becoming an ordained pastor, and making my own church for the rainbow community.

But now, Christianity and I are not friends. That’s also because I’ve learnt more about Christian involvement with colonisation. I’d say I’m spiritual because I believe in Māori atua, the spirit world. But Christianity, in my opinion, has caused so much pain to the rainbow and the indigenous community.

It’s well established that conversion therapy doesn’t work, But last year, a ban on it failed to become law because of concerns around religious freedom. How did that feel for you? 

I was gutted … It made me angry that our prime minister, who everyone thinks is so cool, acknowledged that it hurts people, but brought religious freedom into it. All the other religions don’t have that much fucking freedom. 

For the next election, Labour has promised it will ban all forms of conversion therapy, not just conversion therapists. What does that mean for you?

It makes me want to cry. It makes me feel seen, like I’m not just making shit up. I thought they would only ban it for therapists. 

I was 21 when this all happened, and I’m concerned about other young people who rely on the church. Maybe their home lives aren’t the best … that’s why I was with the church. I’m worried about other young people being coerced or consenting under duress to this practice because it’s the only way to have community. 

I don’t think people understand the risks. People who go through conversion therapy don’t have perfect lives and they’re being taken advantage of. 

It’s worse for people to tell me I was demon-possessed and that the love I have for somebody else is the same as murder. It’s way worse than someone punching me in the nose because they’d get arrested for punching me in the nose. 

I identify as takatāpui. And in our pre-colonial history, we had a space and we were accepted. I’m a descendant of Tutanekai, Hinemoa and Tiki. It’s good to know that it wasn’t always this way. 

*name changed for privacy

If you would like to talk to The Spinoff about a conversion therapy experience, email sherry@thespinoff.co.nz.


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