‘If I hadn’t met my partner I would be in jail.’

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Age: 61

Gender: Male

Sexuality: Hetero

Ethnicity: Kiwi

Religion: Nope

Occupation:Manufacturing management

Length of relationship: 43 years

Children: Three

How we met:I was doing a drug deal in the flat next. She came in the back door, looked at me with disgust and I thought she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen.

The best thing about my relationship: We are still absolutely in lust!!!

A problem we can’t seem to resolve: Don’t have one, really.

This is how we share/separate our finances: I pay the bills and she saves. Amazing saver, the money is always there when we need it.

This is how we split chores and childcare: Me outside, her inside.

Our sex life in three words: Frequent, intense, satisfying.

The thing that makes me a good partner: Know when to be the handbrake.

The thing I need to work on to be a better partner: Not be so reactive instantly.

What I most appreciate in my partner: I feel truly loved.

What I most resent in my relationship: We won’t live forever.

The thing that has changed the most about my relationship over time: We have grown together, we have very separate interests and that’s just fine.

It would surprise people to know this about my relationship: Despite appearances, I follow her lead every time. I make multi decisions daily but at home she takes the lead and it has worked for us.

Our last big fight was about: Can’t remember.

If I hadn’t met my partner: I would be in jail. When we met I was very much on the edge of society and she wouldn’t stand for it. Kicked me out at one point for a couple of months. Realised what I was missing and got my shit together at the ripe old age of 25.

I expect my relationship to last until: the world ends.

My relationship advice is: Be honest and be fearlessly in love.