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Mema Wilda has released two songs titled Blue & How I Long. (Image: Tina Tiller)
Mema Wilda has released two songs titled Blue & How I Long. (Image: Tina Tiller)

Pop CultureSeptember 19, 2022

The wild ride of Mema Wilda

Mema Wilda has released two songs titled Blue & How I Long. (Image: Tina Tiller)
Mema Wilda has released two songs titled Blue & How I Long. (Image: Tina Tiller)

Big breaks and crushing lows feed the music of Sāmoan singer/songwriter Mema Wilda. She talks to Sela Jane Hopgood about magic, space muffins and the places music has taken her.

The garden, I notice, is very well maintained. I meet Mema Wilda at her front door. She invites me inside and seats me at the dining room table while her husband Clint brings us coffees and their two cats vie for my attention. I ask, “Is Wilda a Sāmoan name?” and she laughs, not quite answering my question, but explaining, “I love unicorns and I love magic, and Wilda is like an untamed black unicorn that does its own thing, which I think is fitting for me.”

Born Vaimoana Tumema Sesega-Peters, Wilda started singing at unpaid family gigs, then moved up to weddings and Sāmoan functions and has now created an entire musical persona with, undoubtedly, a touch of the magical unicorn about it. A captivating singer who dabbles in various genres, from folk to funk and rock, the tone of her voice is smooth like Brooke Fraser’s yet when projected is more reminiscent of Boh Runga.

Wilda moved to Tāmaki Makaurau from Sāmoa late 2017, unemployed and wanting to find a better life for her aiga, which includes her Clint and their two sons.

Her first gig in Aotearoa was at the unlikely venue of Junk and Disorderly — a store selling antiques and collectibles in Balmoral, Auckland. But it didn’t take long for people to hear the magic, and Wilda started getting gigs at places like the Samoa Business Network Awards. Before long you could catch her at venues (and sometimes weekend markets) across Tāmaki Makaurau, and then there were the festivals: Okura Forest, Mood Indigo, Resolution NYE, Earth Beat and Cross Street Music. Wilda started opening for bigger acts: Ben Catley, Alec Randles and White Chapel Jak. And earlier this year, she was a part of the Auckland Music in the Parks online offering to the locked-down city.

Most memorable so far, she says, was at the Queens Wharf for the Ports of Auckland Seeport Festival a couple of years ago. “I’ve always wanted to perform on the main stage there and so when the event manager offered me the opportunity, I thought she was messing with me.” Wilda was initially going to perform with three other band members, but once she was confirmed for the main stage, she had a couple of days to string together a bigger band. And so, she did, managing to pull together a seven-piece band to take the stage in front of 10,000 people.

Mema Wilda’s music is inspired by a deep acknowledgement of her feelings and life experiences. (Photo: Supplied)

The thrill of performing in front of a massive crowd was something Wilda yearned to feel again. Last year she and her friends began planning to tour the country, but lacked funds. “Our drummer suggested we enter Battle of the Bands because one of the prizes was a New Zealand tour,” she says. It wasn’t smooth sailing though. The competition was postponed due to Covid-19 restrictions. When Wilda and her band eventually made it to the finals, filled with confidence, they discovered that their bass player was a complete no-show. They competed anyway and – to Wilda’s shock and delight – she was named the winner of the 2021 Battle of the Bands. The prize package was invaluable: a performance at Rhythm and Vines, recording time at the LAB in Auckland and with mixing in Australia by Steve James, an Allen & Heath mixing desk and other Audio-Technica and Jansen prizes.

It was a big break – although not Wilda’s first. She’s been chasing opportunities for longer than she’s lived in Aotearoa. When she was 17, long-standing actress, writer and producer Pamela Stephenson-Connolly visited Sāmoa to start a TV talent show, auditioning people to form a band. Wilda auditioned, but the show didn’t end up going ahead. “When they closed up production, she approached me and asked if I wanted to go with her to New York to pursue music. I was so overwhelmed by the request, I spoke to my parents, and they were sceptical, but they let me try it out.”

The Sāmoan teen headed for NYC. “Of course, I got homesick,” she laughs. 

“After staying a week with Pamela, she left me with an American couple who were very lovely, and we moved to Los Angeles. I remember being at a big dinner party. The couple had put me, a Sāmoan girl who ate meat every day, on a vegetarian diet, so the food at the party was foreign to me,” she says. “I was offered chocolate muffins and I thought, finally, some yummy food. It actually tasted strange. I assumed, OK, well everything I’ve had so far tonight tasted weird, so this is no different, and I put three muffins on my plate.” 

Wilda’s friends noticed she was acting strangely. “I was laughing more than usual and then I started crying and it didn’t help that my friends were looking at me weirdly, so that triggered me to cry more. After sleeping it off, my friends told me they were in fact ‘space muffins’ filled with cannabis.” Wilda flew back to Sāmoa shortly after with a music contract that she needed an adult to sign, but she decided to not return to the US. “I met my husband when I came home, so I’m grateful for that.”

In Sāmoa, church songs are heard everywhere, yet Wilda shares that growing up she listened to The Beatles, because that was her late father’s favourite band, and Simon & Garfunkel. Recently she’s been enjoying Pearl Jam lead singer Eddie Vedder. “I love that I can never understand what he’s saying or the words that he uses, yet I can feel the emotions behind it, the sadness and the pain. I feel like my songs are along those same lines,” she says. 

Wilda describes her single, How I Long, released last year as a love letter to herself following a dark period during lockdown, which brought out a lot of unhealed trauma from her past. “I was self-sabotaging myself with alcohol, masking up the pain I was bottling up and it was affecting my family,” she says, tears welling in her eyes. “One day I called the ambulance because I felt like I was going to die. I had a severe panic attack, where I couldn’t see clearly through my left eye and my heartbeat sounded so loud that I couldn’t hear anyone else talking.” 

Wilda was admitted to a mental health clinic where she was supported with ways to unpack her feelings and, with the help of medication, she was able to understand the problems she was facing. “There’s a lot of free help out there when it comes to our mental health and my journey has made me realise that the art of my music stems from the traumatic experiences I’ve been through.” The trauma feeds the music and, Wilda hopes, the music feeds others facing their own trauma. “Simply by letting people who are going through similar journeys know that I understand.”

She points to the window and that garden I noticed saying, “The garden you walked past is one of my new hobbies. It has helped with my mental health, giving me the peaceful space I need to grow, just like the plants.”

This is Public Interest Journalism funded through NZ On Air.

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Left: Kween Kong getting into drag. Right: Kween Kong in her finale look. (Photo: TVNZ, Image Design: Archi Banal)
Left: Kween Kong getting into drag. Right: Kween Kong in her finale look. (Photo: TVNZ, Image Design: Archi Banal)

Pop CultureSeptember 18, 2022

Kween Kong could’ve been an All Black

Left: Kween Kong getting into drag. Right: Kween Kong in her finale look. (Photo: TVNZ, Image Design: Archi Banal)
Left: Kween Kong getting into drag. Right: Kween Kong in her finale look. (Photo: TVNZ, Image Design: Archi Banal)

Think the Drag Race Down Under finalist was impressive? Just meet the man behind the kween.

When Thomas Fonua was 16, he got two offers. One was to join the New Zealand Men’s under-19 rugby team as a loose forward, the first step on the road towards a spot in the All Blacks squad. The other was to join Black Grace, New Zealand’s premier contemporary dance company. At the time, Fonua says, he was the youngest person ever to be offered either opportunity, and certainly the only person to be offered both.

Thomas Fonua did not become a professional rugby player. But he did end up starring on RuPaul’s Drag Race Down Under, the first Pasifika (and South Auckland!) queen to do so.

Life as a drag queen has taken the Sāmoan-Tongan Fonua a long way from the rugby field. Still, he carries a memento of his sporting career with him in the form of his stage name, Kween Kong. “The boys called me that because I was such a bulldozer,” he says. “I used to plough through all the boys.”

Nothing’s changed, he adds. “I’m still ploughing through the boys… in different ways.”

But back to Fonua, aged 16. He accepted that two-year Black Grace apprenticeship, plucking him from  his Māngere home and into a life tour the world as a dancer.

At 22, by then a teacher at an indigenous dance programme in Canada, Fonua won the prime minister’s Pacific Youth Award for arts and creativity. He was later headhunted by Australian Dance Theatre, that country’s oldest and most established contemporary dance company. He has completed a master’s thesis in indigenous leadership, and is currently studying for his doctorate in the same topic.

Fonua has been performing as Kween Kong since 2016, and is founder of the Haus of Kong, a collective in the style of the Harlem drag houses that supports at-risk youth. When we talk, he’s just a few weeks out from performing with Briefs Factory, a circus and cabaret company, at the Edinburgh Fringe festival, a run that will involve multiple shows a day for a full month, in full drag.

Why, after accomplishing all that, would Fonua take a stab at the Down Under crown?

Kween Kong in the second season finale of Drag Race Down Under. (Photo: TVNZ)

“I think all of these things that I do, the choreography, the studying, it’s me wanting to use my short lifespan on this planet to affect as much change as possible,” he says, over a Zoom call from his Adelaide home the day before the finale is screened. Despite, or maybe because of, all of Fonua’s accomplishments, he views Kween Kong as his purest form of artistic expression. He comes from a line of storytellers, and every work he makes, every word he says, has a purpose. Drag is no exception.

“If anything, it’s like therapy! Everything I do, the way I speak about my drag, it’s to try to find greater understanding. If I’m going to go do something, then I’m gonna go through it,” he says.

Drag Race is the ultimate version of “going through it”. It takes all the hardest parts of reality TV and smashes them together. In one week, you can be expected to design your own outfit, learn choreography, talk about your childhood trauma and – if you don’t do well enough at all of those – lip-sync to do it all again the following week.

The moment Kween Kong first walked into the Down Under workroom, it was clear there was something special about her beyond the charisma and talent that is famously required of every Drag Race contestant. Never before has there been a Drag Race contestant who looks like her (Pasifika), talks like her (baritone voice, soprano laugh), and engages with fellow competitors quite like her (maturely, with appropriate conflict resolution skills).

There’s also never been a queen who has leapt into a barrel roll across the stage like her. It’s difficult to tell if you can attribute that particular acrobatic skill to rugby or dance. Probably both.

“I said yes to coming onto Drag Race because I wanted to see myself on that stage,” Fonua says. “I wanted to see a brown face up there, see a big Sāmoan-Tongan nose on that screen.”

Kween Kong, with her one-episode run sister, Sister Kong. (Photo: TVNZ)

Fonua arrived on the show with some goals in mind beyond simply getting through each round. He could see that it would be an opportunity to showcase Pasifika excellence on a global stage, and knew that he wanted to carve out some space to have conversations about race, specifically in a drag context. The Down Under franchise doesn’t exactly have a stellar history on race so far. In its first season, the few queens of colour were eliminated first, and several other contestants became mired in controversy over race.

The issues with season one made Fonua hesitant about doing the show at all, he says. “I’m really conscious of what I represent, and the damage being on the show could cause, not only to my brand, but to the work I’ve been doing since day dot.

“This activism, this movement, this protest hasn’t been something that I only picked up yesterday,” he says of his work on behalf of the queer Pasifika community. “I am competitive, I’m wanting to win that crown, but my main focus wasn’t me.”

Kween Kong gets into drag. (Photo: TVNZ)

As much as it can be a silly show, Drag Race is also a way for the wider community to better understand the queer experience. It has the potential to be an educational tool as much as a piece of entertainment, and Fonua felt a responsibility to help shine a light on the issues faced by queens of colour, on both sides of the Tasman. “I know that many queens of colour in Australia have shared the same struggles and faced the same hurdles of trying to exist in a mainstream space, that is inherently non-POC – and then the value system on top of that is not really made for us

On Drag Race, the presence of fellow New Zealanders Spankie Jackzon (Palmerston North) and Yuri Guaii (Auckland) helped Kween realise they all shared something special. “We were raised by Māori and Pacific Island drag mummas and aunties, who would love you unconditionally but also give you tough love. There’s such an understanding that we have about respect and sharing space, that we don’t necessarily understand as much in Australia.”

Sisterhood is an aspect of Kween Kong’s persona that didn’t get that a lot of airtime on the show, which is angled more towards conflict and perfectly tossed-off insults. The Haus of Kong is the complete opposite. Originally a physical house for queer kids who needed support, the Haus of Kong has since become a non-for-profit organisation that “creates pathways and windows of opportunity” for queer youth in Adelaide. Fonua is clearly full of pride when talking about helping many of his “babies” into employment or further schooling. “I’m a Pacific mama. That ideology of family, where you go above and beyond, all or nothing. If someone needs something, I would do everything within my capacity to ensure that happens.

“It’s ultimately making it so that by the time they get to my age, they can be the leaders of communities and continue that work.”

Hannah Conda, Kween Kong and Spankie Jackzon in the girl group challenge. (Photo: TVNZ)

Kween Kong didn’t emerge victorious in Drag Race Down Under, but she would have been a worthy winner. But a win would have been yet another in a long list of achievements, both under the Kong name and as Thomas Fonua. You don’t need to wear a crown to pioneer indigenous leadership, create a safe space for your community, or to even build a legacy as a sickening queen. 

She might not come out of this season with the coveted crown and sceptre, but she comes out of it with something just as crucial: a platform for whatever the next stage of Kween Kong happens to be. Thomas Fonua could’ve been an All Black. Thank Ru we’ve got Kween Kong instead.