Steve Hansen says domestic violence is ‘not a gender thing’. Photo: Phil Walter/Getty Images
Steve Hansen says domestic violence is ‘not a gender thing’. Photo: Phil Walter/Getty Images

SocietyJuly 8, 2019

The problem with Steve Hansen’s ‘not a gender thing’ comments

Steve Hansen says domestic violence is ‘not a gender thing’. Photo: Phil Walter/Getty Images
Steve Hansen says domestic violence is ‘not a gender thing’. Photo: Phil Walter/Getty Images

In defending the selection of Sevu Reece, All Black coach Steve Hansen has said he doesn’t believe domestic violence in New Zealand is about gender, but a ‘New Zealand problem’. He’s half right, writes Josie Adams.

Last year, Sevu Reece was discharged without conviction after he was caught violently beating his girlfriend, leaving her with injuries to the face, waist, and knee. He was stood down for one game and fined $750. He says he’s moved on. “That’s all in the past and all that has been dealt with,” he told 1 News in April. The domestic violence incident was eight months ago.

After being discharged by the court, Irish club Connacht cancelled a contract with Reece. He was quickly picked up by the Crusaders, and now the All Blacks. When asked about this choice, All Blacks coach Steve Hansen defended Reece strongly, suggesting the young player might have acted out of frustration in a singular event. 

In an interview with Radio Sport’s Jim Kayes, Hansen made it clear he didn’t believe domestic violence was related to attitudes towards women. “Having been a policeman, I’ve seen plenty of it, and I know it’s not just restricted to males assaulting women, women assault males too,” he said. “It’s not a gender thing, it’s a New Zealand problem.”

Hansen echoed the old John Banks adage that a boy in sport is a boy out of court, saying: “when you look at this particular case, rather than asking the question ‘why has rugby brought Sevu in and looked after him?’, the question I’d ask is ‘what would happen if we didn’t?’”

At only 22 years old, Reece has time to grow as a person, said Hansen. “We can break the cycle of domestic violence.”

Rehabilitation by positive masculine role models could of course be life-changing for Reece, not to mention his future partners. But whether the Crusaders, the All Blacks, or rugby players generally can be held up as positive role models is another matter.

Folau’s homophobic double-down, the Chiefs’ 2016 mistreatment of an erotic dancer, and even the Crusaders’ very name have raised concern. In fact, the Chiefs’ abuse of “Scarlette” in 2016 was an impetus for the NZ Rugby Respect and Responsibility review.

The review was made up of a panel of independent experts, who had the goal of developing guidelines for New Zealand Rugby to help create an environment that fosters good off-field behaviour in addition to their on-field performance. It looked very heavily at players’ treatment of women, as this was a topic that came up repeatedly during an initial survey.

When approached for comment, Kathryn Beck — chair of the NZ Rugby Respect and Responsibility panel — was reluctant to comment on the individual cases of Reece and Hansen. However, she did acknowledge that NZ Rugby is in a unique position to provide leadership and support to those impacted by family violence within the rugby environment. According to Beck, NZ Rugby has “a comprehensive and integrated approach focussing on gender equality, prevention through education and awareness programs, and the provision of support to individuals and their families”.

The panel made recommendations to NZ Rugby based on investigating 36 incidents, which consisted of inappropriate sexual behaviour, violent behaviour to team members or coaches, drug and alcohol offences and homophobic slurs. One of the key recommendations they made was gender equity across all levels of New Zealand Rugby. “[The review] has a very clear focus on women,” said Beck at the time of the review. “Having a female chair, I think, was quite deliberate and very important.”

Former Black Ferns captain Dr Farah Palmer, who is on the boards of both New Zealand Rugby and Sport New Zealand, hadn’t heard Steve Hansen’s remarks and didn’t want to comment on them directly. “I do believe it’s something that impacts on women and children in particular,” she said. 

“The majority of victims of domestic violence are women and children. So I’m a great believer in the fact New Zealand Rugby is wrapping support around its players and that we’re taking these issues seriously.”

Asked if domestic violence has its roots in attitudes to women, she answered: “I think there’s this idea that masculinity and femininity, kind of, one needs to be more dominant than the other. For me, I think that is the issue, the way we that we think about our gender and the roles we supposedly play. We are slowly changing.”

Hansen is right to say domestic violence is a New Zealand problem. But not a “gender thing”? The violence is not uniformly male, but it mostly is. The starkest statistic? Seventy six per cent of intimate partner violence related deaths are perpetrated by men. This New Zealand problem is a New Zealand men problem.

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How Elise and family hope their new home might look
How Elise and family hope their new home might look

SocietyJuly 5, 2019

In defence of co-living

How Elise and family hope their new home might look
How Elise and family hope their new home might look

Whatever the shortcomings of corporate co-housing projects, that should not detract from the value of the community living projects people like me are pursuing, writes Elise Badger

Together with my family, my sister and brother-in-law, I am currently immersed in the planning stages of a community living project. So I was intrigued to read an article on the Spinoff headlined, “When ‘co-living housing’ is just a fancy name for exploiting a crisis.”

It described corporate community living developments under way around New Zealand, suggesting that some of these were cynically designed to cash in on our country’s housing crisis. I cannot speak for the ethical motivations behind these co-living developments, but it was disappointing to see such scepticism about an approach that may offer a creative solution to the dire accommodation situation we face.

I am not here to defend any corporatised co-living developments. I will, however, defend community living as a viable and necessary option for New Zealanders seeking solutions to what can feel like an inexorable trap of inflated rent and swollen house prices.

Community living is a form of ‘sharing’ real estate among family or friends or any collection of people who agree to do so. The motivation for many of those who choose community living is to, as the name suggests, achieve a deeper connection to community.

Happily there are many practical advantages to community living. Co-living is one example of community living and is expressed in various arrangements but in general, residents have their own private bedroom and share common spaces such as bathrooms, kitchens and living areas. Co-housing is another, and is the form that I have chosen to pursue with my family.

In a co-housing arrangement two or more dwellings are located near one another, each functioning independently of the other whilst sharing some common spaces. These common spaces could be anything from outdoor living, gardens or garages to laundries. Co-housing supports household independence for the residents while still maintaining strong community connection through these communal spaces.

Multi-generational living is another example of community living and one as ancient as humanity. Many New Zealanders live with two or three generations under the one roof and the emergence of the “granny flat” has taken on new meaning as adult children move back in with their parents to save money. For many families choosing multi-generational living is a cultural norm and expectation, a personal choice or a necessity; I and my two young children currently and very gratefully live with my parents while we wait for our co-housing project to be complete.

Disconnectedness has become a blight on the landscape of the modern lifestyle. Community connection has been lost at the altar of individualisation. And yet connection is crucial to thriving individuals and healthy community but our housing developments do nothing to foster this. Suburban sprawl is a hallmark of residential development in recent years, a maze of inefficient cul-de-sacs and circulatory streets while communal spaces are few and far between.

The way our communities have been designed and bewilderingly continue to be designed does nothing for improving social connectedness in our country. Community living is one possible solution to this. As families and individuals choose to live side-by-side in an intentional and interactive way, connectedness naturally increases. It becomes an antidote to the isolation of aspects of western culture.

Pragmatically, when more than one family pool financial resources it may even become possible to purchase land or a home when once it wasn’t. Ongoing maintenance of the home is shared both financially and physically and even bills can be shared. Material possessions will inevitably diminish because who needs two lawnmowers for one lawn? In a new build, the footprint naturally diminished as spaces are shared, for example in our co-housing project we will share the laundry, mudroom and garage, this saves us money on the build, money when it comes to heating our homes and time when it comes to cleaning.

As more Kiwis feel the burden of rent hikes, the near impossible prospect of entering a lopsided real estate market and the isolation of modern housing, co-housing could just be the creative solution they are craving. Co-housing can allow families of all sizes and shapes to come together and achieve what would otherwise not be possible.

When I consider our co-housing project completed I envisage conversations by the washing machine, I imagine the deep satisfaction of gardening alongside my neighbour and friend while our children tear in and out of the houses. I imagine pot luck dinners thrown together at the last minute because everyone is exhausted after a long day at work and a burden shared is a burden halved. I imagine easy summer barbeques where both houses are spilling over with friends and family mingling in the outdoor spaces and I imagine other families deciding to choose their neighbours as we have, to enjoy a richly connected, financially possible way of living.

By sharing our real estate with others, communities will become more deeply connected and, just maybe, can change the face of the housing crisis.