Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern on her way into Parliament on March 19, 2019. Photo: Mark Tantrum/Getty Images
Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern on her way into Parliament on March 19, 2019. Photo: Mark Tantrum/Getty Images

SocietyMarch 19, 2019

‘We cannot know your grief, but we can walk with you at every stage’

Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern on her way into Parliament on March 19, 2019. Photo: Mark Tantrum/Getty Images
Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern on her way into Parliament on March 19, 2019. Photo: Mark Tantrum/Getty Images

In the first address to parliament since Friday’s terrorist attack on Christchurch, Jacinda Ardern paid tribute to the Muslim community and pledged to deny the perpetrator the notoriety he craves

Al salam Alaikum. Peace be upon you. And peace be upon all of us.

The 15th of March will now forever be a day etched in our collective memories. On a quiet Friday afternoon a man stormed into a place of peaceful worship and took away the lives of 50 people.

That quiet Friday afternoon has become our darkest of days.

But for the families, it was more than that. It was the day that the simple act of prayer – of practising their Muslim faith and religion – led to the loss of their loved ones’ lives.

Those loved ones, were brothers, daughters, fathers and children.

They were New Zealanders. They are us.

And because they are us, we, as a nation, we mourn them.

We feel a huge duty of care to them. And we have so much we feel the need to say and to do.

One of the roles I never anticipated having, and hoped never to have, is to voice the grief of a nation.

At this time, it has been second only to securing the care of those affected, and the safety of everyone.

And in this role, I wanted to speak directly to the families. We cannot know your grief, but we can walk with you at every stage. We can. And we will, surround you with aroha, manaakitanga and all that makes us, us. Our hearts are heavy but our spirit is strong.

Six minutes after a 111 call was placed alerting the police to the shootings at Al-Noor mosque, police were on the scene.

The arrest itself was nothing short of an act of bravery. Two country police officers rammed the vehicle from which the offender was still shooting. They pulled open his car door, when there were explosives inside, and pulled him out.

I know we all wish to acknowledge that their acts put the safety of New Zealanders above their own, and we thank them.

But they were not the only ones who showed extraordinary courage.

Naeem Rashid, originally from Pakistan, died after rushing at the terrorist and trying to wrestle the gun from him. He lost his life trying to save those who were worshipping alongside him.

Abdul Aziz, originally from Afghanistan, confronted and faced down the armed terrorist after grabbing the nearest thing to hand – a simple eftpos machine. He risked his life and no doubt saved many with his selfless bravery.

There will be countless stories, some of which we may never know, but to each, we acknowledge you in this place, in this House.

For many of us the first sign of the scale of this terrorist attack was the images of ambulance staff transporting victims to Christchurch hospital.

To the first responders, the ambulance staff and the health professionals who have assisted – and who continue to assist those who have been injured – please accept the heartfelt thanks of us all. I saw first-hand your care and your professionalism in the face of extraordinary challenges. We are proud of your work, and incredibly grateful for it.

I’d like to talk about some of the immediate measures currently in place especially to ensure the safety of our Muslim community, and more broadly the safety of everyone.

As a nation, we do remain on high alert. While there isn’t a specific threat at present, we are maintaining vigilance.

Unfortunately, we have seen in countries that know the horrors of terrorism more than us, there is a pattern of increased tension and actions over the weeks that follow that means we do need to ensure that vigilance is maintained.

There is an additional and ongoing security presence in Christchurch, and as the police have indicated, there will continue to be a police presence at mosques around the country while their doors are open. When they are closed, police will be in the vicinity.

There is a huge focus on ensuring the needs of families are met. That has to be our priority. A community welfare centre has been set up near the hospital in Christchurch to make sure people know how to access support.

Visas for family members overseas are being prioritised so that they can attend funerals. Funeral costs are covered, and we have moved quickly to ensure that this includes repatriation costs for any family members who would like to move their loved ones away from New Zealand.

We are working to provide mental health and social support. The 1737 number yesterday received roughly 600 texts or phonecalls. They are on average lasting around 40 minutes, and I encourage anyone in need to reach out and use these services. They are there for you.

Our language service has also provided support from more than 5000 contacts, ensuring whether you are ACC or MSD, you are able to pass on the support that is needed, in the language that is needed. To all those working within this service, we say thank you.

Our security and intelligence services are receiving a range of additional information. As has been the case in the past, these are being taken extremely seriously, and they are being followed up.

I know though that there have rightly been questions around how this could have happened here. In a place that prides itself on being open, peaceful, diverse.

And there is anger that it has happened here.

There are many questions that need to be answered, and the assurance that I give you is that they will be.

Yesterday Cabinet agreed that an inquiry, one that looks into the events that led up to the attack on 15 March, will occur. We will examine what we did know, could have known, or should have known. We cannot allow this to happen again.

Part of ensuring the safety of New Zealanders must include a frank examination of our gun laws.

As I have already said our gun laws will change. Cabinet met yesterday and made in-principle decisions, 72 hours after the attack.

Before we meet again next Monday, these decisions will be announced.

There is one person at the centre of this act of terror against our Muslim community in New Zealand.

A 28-year-old man – an Australian citizen – has been charged with one count of murder. Other charges will follow. He will face the full force of the law in New Zealand. The families of the fallen will have justice.

He sought many things from his act of terror, but one was notoriety.

And that is why you will never hear me mention his name.

He is a terrorist. He is a criminal. He is an extremist.

But he will, when I speak, be nameless.

And to others I implore you: speak the names of those who were lost, rather than name of the man who took them.

He may have sought notoriety, but we in New Zealand will give him nothing. Not even his name.

We will also look at the role social media played and what steps we can take, including on the international stage, and in unison with our partners.

There is no question that ideas and language of division and hate have existed for decades, but their form of distribution, the tools of organisation, they are new.

We cannot simply sit back and accept that these platforms just exist and that what is said on them is not the responsibility of the place where they are published. They are the publisher. Not just the postman. There cannot be a case of all profit no responsibility. This of course doesn’t take away the responsibility we too must show as a nation, to confront racism, violence and extremism. I don’t have all of the answers now, but we must collectively find them. And we must act.

We are deeply grateful for all messages of sympathy, support and solidarity that we are receiving from our friends all around the world. And we are grateful to the global Muslim community who have stood with us, and we stand with them.

I acknowledge that we too also stand with Christchurch, in a devastating blow that this has been to their recovery. I acknowledge every member of this House that has stood alongside their Muslim community but especially those in Canterbury as we acknowledge this double grief

As I conclude I acknowledge there are many stories that will have struck all of us since the 15th of March.

One I wish to mention, is that of Hati Mohemmed Daoud Nabi.

He was the 71-year-old man who opened the door at the Al-Noor mosque and uttered the words ‘Hello brother, welcome’. His final words.

Of course he had no idea of the hate that sat behind the door, but his welcome tells us so much – that he was a member of a faith that welcomed all its members, that showed openness, and care.

I have said many times, we are a nation of 200 ethnicities, 160 languages. We open our doors to others and say welcome. And the only thing that must change after the events of Friday is that this same door must close on all of those who espouse hate and fear.

Yes the person who committed these acts was not from here. He was not raised here. He did not find his ideology here, but that is not to say that those very same views do not live here.

I know that as a nation, we wish to provide every comfort we can to our Muslim community in this darkest of times. And we are. The mountain of flowers around the country that lie at the doors of mosques, the spontaneous song outside the gates. These are ways of expressing an outpouring of love and empathy. But we wish to do more.

We wish for every member of our communities to also feel safe.

Safety means being free from the fear of violence.

But it also means being free from the fear of those sentiments of racism and hate, that create a place where violence can flourish.

And every single one of us has the power to change that.

On Friday it will be a week since the attack.

Members of the Muslim community will gather for worship on that day.

Let us acknowledge their grief as they do.

Let’s support them as they gather again for worship.

We are one, they are us.

Tatau tatau

Al salam Alaikum

Weh Rahmat Allah

Weh Barakaatuh

Keep going!
‘Princesses and superheroes like me are Muslim too’ banner at Auckland Aotea square vigil (Photo: Sean Stapleton)
‘Princesses and superheroes like me are Muslim too’ banner at Auckland Aotea square vigil (Photo: Sean Stapleton)

SocietyMarch 19, 2019

Take care of yourself too: some expert advice on feeling a little less terrible

‘Princesses and superheroes like me are Muslim too’ banner at Auckland Aotea square vigil (Photo: Sean Stapleton)
‘Princesses and superheroes like me are Muslim too’ banner at Auckland Aotea square vigil (Photo: Sean Stapleton)

If you’re still feeling down in the wake of the horrific events of Friday, you’re not alone. Here are some simple ways to care for yourself and others. 

It’s been a horrific few days in New Zealand. People have been affected in different ways, but for many of us, our reaction to the events of 15/3/19 has manifested as waves of sadness, rage, despair, hopelessness, or often a mixture of all of them. “Even if you’re not directly affected, it’s normal to feel anger, grief, maybe even a desire for revenge,” says clinical psychologist Sam Farmer.

“Those emotions should be recognised and accepted as a part of your response, but be careful not to act on them in a violent or abusive way,” he advises. “Instead, listen to them as drivers to do something more positive.” Taking positive steps to help Muslim communities in New Zealand is a proactive way to heal yourself as well as support others: check out our regularly updated post for information on donations, vigils, volunteering and more.

“It’s not unusual to feel affected because this is a unprecedented event and we are a tiny country,” says psychotherapist and journalist Rebekah Holt. “It’s also not selfish to feel sad and like you want to take care of yourself.” But self-care can be hard when you are struggling to tear yourself away from your many screens. “Put boundaries in place,” says Farmer. “Tell yourself you’ll just watch the 6pm news and swipe away anything that pops up on your mobile phone.”

Messages of support at a vigil at Tempelhof Field in Berlin (Photo: Sophie Turner)

It’s also important to begin to go about your normal, everyday routine, says Farmer, a task that will be easier for some than others. “People in the Muslim community are going to be feeling very nervous about returning to those places of worship – it’s expected that a human being would be a bit cautious re-entering a space like that. Check with the Imam and take it easy, it’s natural that it will take some time to return to a place that feels no longer safe.”

On the ground in her hometown of Christchurch this week, Holt notes that many locals who experienced the earthquakes might feel retraumatised by “unconscious signals” associated with the disaster. For example, it’s normal to feel distressed and upset by the increased presence of police, sirens, ambulances and media. “Cognitively, your brain doesn’t know the difference, so those things can be a real trigger,” she says. “Even if there is no threat, you can’t tell your fight or flight response that.”

The thing to keep an eye on in your close circles, says Farmer, is changes in behaviour. “Changes in sleep patterns, excessive drinking, suddenly eating more or eating less – watch out for those. Don’t be an island. If you’re noticing you or someone you know is not behaving like normal, talk to someone. Check in with a friend and do something nice. If need be, tap into those community resources, visit your GP or a psychologist.”

“On the one hand, you need to keep track of the news, on the other hand, you need to remember what life is about – try to enjoy yourself, have fun with your friends and family. Remember what life is about and what keeps you going.”

Beyond that sound professional advice, there’s also nothing wrong with taking an internet break every now and again to let a ray of light in. Here are some of The Spinoff’s offerings.

Remind yourself of the good in the world

On Friday, just hours before being overshadowed by the horrific events in Christchurch, thousands of young people around the world rallied to demand action on climate change. Check out Sonya Nagels’ photo essay from the Auckland strike.

KARMELLA, 14. PHOTO: SONYA NAGELS

On a similar note, the outpouring of support around the world for the victims of the attacks is a clear sign that there is whole lot of kindness, love and compassion out there. Here’s a selection of photos from vigils in New Zealand and abroad.

Wellington Vigil held at the Basin Reserve (Photo: Elias Rodriguez/Getty Images)

Look for the helpers. Consider that New Zealanders have raised well over $6 million for the families of victims. Read the stories of heroism and selflessness from Friday, like Abdul Aziz who threw an Eftpos machine at the attacker, the bystander Jacob Murray who helped the wounded into his car amid the chaos and Naeem Rashid, who tackled the gunman down inside the mosque.

Try and have a lol

Many of us have got a lot of joy out of the newfound fame of egg boy, aka Australian teenager Will Connolly, who cracked an egg on Australian senator Fraser Anning’s head in response to his odious comments about the terror attacks in Christchurch, and was then punched by Anning and tackled by his nasty henchmen.

And in the midst of the egg boy excitement, a new hero(ine) has emerged: egg girl, who nailed Brazil’s far-right president Jair Bolsonaro with her ovoid weapon of choice back in 2017, before he came to power. Respect.

Enjoy some wholesome content

Engaging with wholesome content of all forms can help. You might want to watch the entire new season of Queer Eye, like The Spinoff’s Alex Casey and Jihee Junn did this weekend. Or it might be as simple as checking out this baby pūkeko that a police dog team took to South Island Wildlife Hospital, wrapped in navy police overalls, after they sadly ran over its mum during the response to the attacks on Friday.

Or read about this 8-year-old Nigerian boy who recently became a chess champion – he arrived in New York as a refugee and lives in a homeless shelter. Or this stray dog who climbed a mountain in the Himalayas. Or this famous cat who held a book signing. Or check out these pooches watching the Crufts dog show on TV.

Or behold the glory that is Kratu, an extremely good boy doing his very best in the agility course at Crufts:

Or how about this photo of a cat snugly ensconced in a blanket that Jihee Junn stumbled across while searching Getty Images for photos from vigils following the attacks (it was from a blessing of the animals in New York in 2017).

So wholesome (Photo: Getty Images)

Or bask in the pure joy that is Alex Casey’s 16-year-old dog Pat getting a McDonald’s hamburger for his birthday.

He gets one every year.

For more support:

Free call or text 1737 any time to talk to a trained counsellor and download resources about coping with traumatic events here.

The Aotearoa Resettled Community Coalition has set up a number of support lines run by multilingual volunteers here.

Healthline – 0800 611 116

The Aotearoa Resettled Community Coalition has set up a number of support lines run by multilingual volunteers here.

Lifeline – 0800 543 354 or 09 5222 999 within Auckland.

Depression Helpline  – 0800 111 757 or free text 4202. This service is staffed 24/7 by trained counsellors

Counselling for children and young people

Youthline – 0800 376 633, free text 234 or email talk@youthline.co.nz or online chat. Open 24/7.

thelowdown.co.nz – or email team@thelowdown.co.nz or free text 5626

What’s Up – 0800 942 8787 (for 5–18 year olds). Phone counselling is available Monday to Friday, midday–11pm and weekends, 3pm–11pm. Online chat is available 3pm–10pm daily.

Kidsline – 0800 54 37 54 (0800 kidsline) for young people up to 18 years of age. Open 24/7.