Dating Files: A 'bicurious' 26-year-old looking for a comfortable love who's vulnerable
'When I was younger I met up with a guy and was catfished, but wanted to be nice so went along with it. I wish I could have saved my younger self and gone home.'
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Age: 26
Gender: Female
Sexuality: Straight/Bicurious
Ethnicity: Pākehā
Religion: None
Occupation: Admin
My living location is: Suburban
The apps I’m on: Hinge
I’m looking for: A long term comfortable love to grow with, is vulnerable and accepts me wholly. I'm enjoying the journey of meeting lots of new people. I'm learning a lot about myself - figuring out what I truly want, what I prioritise, and my dealbreakers when dating someone.
Mostly I’m finding: People not wanting commitment or different life plans.
My last serious relationship was: A short lived relationship that ended three years ago, they moved overseas so we weren't on the same page. They were my first love that I could feel truly myself with, it was romantic and special. I'll always appreciate and cherish that relationship.
The worst date I ever had: When I was younger I met up with a guy and was catfished, but wanted to be nice so went along with it. I wish I could have saved my younger self and gone home.
The best date I ever had: It was a first date where we spent the whole day together. We went to a flea market, then went for a drink, then to play pool, and finished with exchanging music in the car. There was an instant connection that felt unreal.
The most regrettable thing I ever did on a date: See worst date ^
The best thing a date ever did for me: Wrote me a song about how he felt about me, I cried!
The biggest red flag I’ve seen on a date: Rolled his eyes and said I talk too much.
On a date I usually wear: Depends on the date, but usually long skirt, nice top and boots with a lil side bag.
I have sex when: It feels right in the moment, although it's nice to wait for a deeper connection.
I wish dating was: Meeting people in the wild rather than on apps.
This is what I think about who pays on dates: If there are a couple rounds at the bar, it's usually you buy a round, I buy a round so it evens out.
Three words that describe my dream date: Wholesome, comfortable and spontaneous.
My dating advice is: To push past the first date nerves, you'll get used to it, and don't be afraid to be yourself :)
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