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A woman wearing a red winter coat stands in the middle of a deserted road in Ukraine
Natasha Zhuravel stands on her empty street. Her neighbours have not returned home.

SocietyMarch 25, 2025

‘If a village has children, it has a future’: The Ukrainians returning home during war

A woman wearing a red winter coat stands in the middle of a deserted road in Ukraine
Natasha Zhuravel stands on her empty street. Her neighbours have not returned home.

The village of Partyzanske, like so many others, has been devastated by war. Tasha Black meets the women determined to rebuild it.

All photography by Tasha Black.

A middle-aged woman is waving in the distance, standing at the end of a dirt road. A steel grey dreariness hangs in the late afternoon air, soon we will be cloaked in darkness. I pull my coat in tight and kick my boots into the ground, hoping to wake up my numb toes. Ukraine in winter is biting cold. 

I walk on, past the rubble, past the bullet holes in fences.

“Добрий день!” Good afternoon! The woman at the end of the road says cheerily as we walk up to her. She wears a pink woollen hat and black jacket, and holds a puppy against her chest. She introduces herself as Valentyna and ushers us into her sister Liubov’s home. It’s a relief to be out of the cold.

Liubov’s home is cosy, quaint even. There are rugs on the floor, blankets on the chairs, and a warm fire going. But clues of a recent darker past remain. The refrigerator is riddled with bullet holes. There are piles of rubble in the garden. And Liubov’s crutches rest against a wall. 

Liubov, 64, sits on a single bed, wearing a dress with “love” written on it. One day, in April 2022, Liubov was in her yard milking her cow when artillery began raining down. Terrified and praying for her life, Liubov raced for cover but slipped on a patch of late season ice and badly injured her leg. She was transferred to a hospital, and later a shelter. There would be no returning home. Not yet anyway – it was too dangerous.  

A wall of concrete blocks stands alone, surrounded by rubble
All that is left of Liubov’s garage is a frame.

Liubov’s village, Partyzanske, is in southern Ukraine, about 30 minutes’ drive east of Mykolaiv, a strategic port city. Mykolaiv saw fierce fighting in the early days of Russia’s full-scale invasion. It was an impressive defence, and despite predictions otherwise, the city held – just. But Partyzanske and neighbouring villages were caught on the frontline of the Russo-Ukrainian war for months. Residents were forced to flee for their lives. 

Some of the most evocative images of the war have been of people fleeing. Families clutching suitcases, children wrapped in winter coats, crowds standing on railway platforms, waiting, hoping to board a train. Their faces carried a look of dazed disbelief – could this really be happening? Not since the second world war has Europe seen such displacement. An estimated 14 million people – about one third of Ukraine’s population – have fled their homes at some point in the last three years due to war. 

Many have not been able to return home, their land now under Russian occupation. But in some cases, such as in Partyzanske, Ukrainian forces managed to push Russian invaders back, and areas that were previously occupied are now being reclaimed by residents, defiant and determined. Bullet holes be damned.

A woman in a pink beanie and puffer jacket stands in front of a home riddled with bullet holes
Valentyna stands outside her sister’s Liubov’s home, riddled with bullet holes.

After months living in a shelter, Liubov returned to Partyzanske in December 2023. It was a devastating site. The village was near-obliterated. House after house destroyed, the local school gone. Liubov’s home was badly damaged. “It was horrible,” she says. “But it’s my home. I’ve lived here for 40 years and my three children grew up here. Even with all this damage, it’s still my home with sweet memories.”

And so, she temporarily moved in with her sister Valentyna nearby, and together with Valentyna’s husband, they set about repairing and rebuilding Liubov’s house, including with materials donated by ReliefAid. 

In the neighbouring village is a humanitarian distribution centre where ReliefAid hands out sacks filled with plaster, putty, floor screed and thermal adhesive. All materials for fixing broken homes. Kseniya Zboryk, a young, highly educated Ukrainian woman, is overseeing the distribution. From early in the morning people arrive one by one, pulling up in old Russian-made Lada cars, towing rusted trailers. Loading the sacks onto the trailers is repetitive work. Men wait, smoking cigarettes under the grey sky, while inside the distribution centre, a woman with a dyed blonde bob checks documents and keeps a record of who turns up. 

Sacks are given out for free. Some people lost work due to the war and salaries are low in the village, approximately 8000 hryvnia per month ($335 NZD). The building was once a restaurant and wedding venue, now the windows are boarded up and a United Nations tarpaulin hangs from one wall. 

A close up of gloved hands picking up a bag of concrete
A woman looks on as sacks are stacked on a trailer.

Kseniya takes me on a whistle-stop tour of destruction through the villages. Large mounds of rubble are piled high next to a children’s playground. Twisted steel rebar juts out of concrete blocks like alien limbs. There are no cars, no people, just silence. A Ukrainian flag, blue and yellow – representing the sky and Ukraine’s ubiquitous sunflowers – flutters in the breeze. The sky is grey. It feels apocalyptic. Why return at all?

The mayor of Partyzanske, Raisa Adamivna, was among the first to return home. There was “a little bit of crying”, Raisa tells me, from her office in a new portacom building. But Raisa is a woman with steely resolve. She shows me a photo on her phone of her two storey home, built just a few years earlier. The garden is vibrant, in full bloom with cherry trees and roses. And then another photo. Thousands of tiny shards of glass on the ground. Rubble, brick, plaster, furniture, broken and scattered. It’s hard to see what I am looking at. “It is the dining room,” she says. Everything is in ruin, except for three white dinner plates on the floor. Raisa must see my face drop because she quickly says, “Don’t worry, we’re rebuilding everything. We won’t give up.” Besides, buildings are not the most important thing, she insists. And then, matter-of-factly, “It’s not only this village, it’s all over Ukraine. It is war.” 

A Ukrainian flag flutters in the breeze in front of a pile of rubble
A Ukrainian flag flutters in the breeze in front of a pile of rubble

The cost to rebuild Ukraine is enormous. A study by the World Bank put the figure at USD $524 billion. Each day the cost increases as Ukraine continues to come under attack from Russia. Ten percent of the housing stock has been damaged or destroyed. The need is so great, it has been described as the largest rebuilding effort since the second world war, and Ukraine has been dubbed the world’s largest construction site.  

“Would you like some food?” Raisa, the mayor, asks, pulling a long stick of salami and a slab of cheese out of her handbag. Soon, there is chocolate, coffee, bread and jam on the table. “We hope that people will come back to the village,” she says. Before the invasion, Partyzanske had around 1,000 residents. Now there are 220. Many people grew up here, have parents who passed away here, they have roots here and want to stay, she says. “We want to rebuild the school. When we have a school, families with children will come back. And if a village has children, it has a future.” 

There are 6.9 million Ukrainian refugees living abroad, mostly in Europe, according to UNHCR. Ukraine needs people to return. Even before the war, Ukraine’s population demographics were out of kilter. Since independence in 1991, the population dropped dramatically, declining by 10 million in 30 years. 

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Whether people return home or not depends on a range of push and pull factors, including having family and a home to return to, as well as job opportunities. Being displaced is costly. The further west you travel, the higher the cost of living. For some internally displaced people from eastern Ukraine, renting an apartment in cities like Lviv in the west is simply too high, pushing them to return east, where life is cheaper but closer to the frontline. And, of course, there are safety concerns. But what does it mean to feel safe when all of Ukraine is still at risk of drone attacks, when air raid sirens blast every night? One person’s measure of safety is another’s risk. 

For some, the call home is deeply personal. Before the war, Natasha Zhuravel, a villager from Partyzanske, lived on a farm with her husband. Together they had cows, pigs, chickens, and a rich, bountiful garden. She fled the village in March 2022 with the help of her husband who was due to join her just a few days later. But before her husband left, he was killed by shelling in their backyard. “He was very kind. He loved children,” Natasha tells me softly, her grief raw, palpable. Every night while Natasha was displaced, she would dream of her husband. “When I came home, I stopped dreaming of him. Maybe he called me back home.” 

She stands on her empty street, wrapped in her red winter coat, wiping away tears. Natasha returned to Partyzanske to find her car and garage burned to the ground, her home badly damaged.

A woman wearing a red winter coat stands in the middle of a deserted road in Ukraine
Natasha Zhuravel stands on her empty street. Her neighbours have not returned home.

I ask Mike Seawright, the New Zealander who established ReliefAid in 2014, why they donate construction materials. There’s the practical answer: when missile strikes leave a home damaged, a leaking roof in freezing temperatures can be the difference between life and death, he says. And then there’s the psychological answer. “What we consistently see in warzones is that people want to return home. The simple act of being able to make a cup of tea in your own kitchen or start planting vegetables in the garden signals a return to normality.”  

It’s taken a year, but Liubov’s house is starting to feel like a home again. Liubov, the woman who injured her leg slipping on ice while artillery rained down around her, is happy to be home. She laughs as her little puppy darts playfully around the room. “Lady! Lady!” she says, talking to her puppy. She scoops Lady up and nestles her face against the dog’s warm fur. Balls of wool sit on the bed. Liubov knits thick woolly socks for soldiers on the front. 

Night is falling and as I sit with Liubov I wonder if she feels safe. “Sometimes I hear attacks,” she says, referring to the nearby city Kherson, about 45 kilometres away as the crow flies, which comes under frequent drone and missile bombardments. “But I can’t run. I’m at home and I’m in the safest place.” I look at her crutches against the wall. 

Two women hold a small puppy and wear warm clothing
Sisters Liubov and Valentyna with their puppy, in Liubov’s newly repaired home.

How do you stay so positive? I ask. Liubov looks down, folding and unfolding her hands in her lap. Her eyes are glistening, holding back tears. I wish I hadn’t asked the question. But then she says: “Life is not for crying. It is for happiness. It doesn’t make any sense to cry.” She looks ahead, breathes out, and smiles. Chin up, resolute. 

We often describe people as being happy or sad. But it struck me that Liubov holds both joy and sorrow in her heart, simultaneously. Her story, like that of so many Ukrainians right now, is one of hardship and pain. But also hope and perseverance. Two things can be true at the same time.

Earlier in the day, I watched old cars line up at the humanitarian distribution centre. I watched men patiently waiting to receive sacks of plaster that they couldn’t afford to buy themselves. To fix homes for their families, to cover bullet holes in the walls, caused by a war they never asked for. I wondered why anyone would return. What were they returning to? Winter in Ukraine is hard. Winter in Ukraine in a bombed-out village is harder still. 

An empty playground in front of a pile of rubble
An empty playground in front of a pile of rubble

But there are patches of life in the villages. Ducks and chickens in a yard. A solitary man on his roof, making repairs. There is Liubov’’s laugh, Natasha’s tenacity, Raisa’s steely grit. All older women, piecing their lives, and their village back together. Brick by brick, day by day.  

Of course, not everyone can return home. Their land and homes are now occupied by Russia. And as Russian forces push further into Ukraine, new areas are put under pressure, new evacuation orders are issued, forcing people to flee. 

As I go to leave, Liubov insists on giving me a pair of woolly socks she knitted. I will be returning to a New Zealand summer, so instead I pass them on to a Kiwi friend fighting on the front. I wave goodbye to the two sisters and head outside into the cold night.  

A collage features: a road with "slow" markings, a "be kind, stay safe" COVID-19 sign, road aerial view, a construction worker, a dog, a suburb landscape, a swing with "danger" tape, and a traffic light.
Scenes from lockdown, including, at bottom left, Stanley helping with The Spinoff’s live updates (Images: Getty Images, The Spinoff)

SocietyMarch 25, 2025

Remember this? A collection of warm and cursed memories from the first lockdown

A collage features: a road with "slow" markings, a "be kind, stay safe" COVID-19 sign, road aerial view, a construction worker, a dog, a suburb landscape, a swing with "danger" tape, and a traffic light.
Scenes from lockdown, including, at bottom left, Stanley helping with The Spinoff’s live updates (Images: Getty Images, The Spinoff)

Five years ago today, New Zealanders woke up in lockdown – or, officially, alert level four – for the very first time. To mark the occasion, we’ve dredged up a selection of weird and wonderful recollections from that unprecedented era.

The MSD ‘assistance’

I was in lockdown at my parents’ place and was newly unemployed, living with my early retiree parents and equally unemployed brother. In short, we were the least stressed people in our suburb. Because we lived on a small cul de sac in a low-income neighbourhood with young families and elderly alike, I distributed some flyers in our street, offering shopping services or any other help. I got a few texts thanking me for the offer but no one took me up on it.

Instead, a neighbour with lots of kids texted to say they had just received a week’s work of family dinners from the Ministry of Social Development (they were automatically delivered to people receiving certain benefits) but didn’t have freezer space and would need to chuck them out, so would we like them? The meals were yum but it really drove home the sentiment at the time that actually a bit more cash for those with the least would have been a lot more helpful than 20 frozen dinners at once. / Madeleine Chapman

Pretty stink time to be in your early 20s

Spending a third of your Covid subsidy on bottom-shelf wine that you would either drink alone while listening to Fiona Apple’s Fetch the Bolt Cutters or drink alone while convincing your friends over Zoom call that Everything Will Be OK. And then, after a while, showing up to neither your friends’ Zoom calls or your online uni lectures because you’re depressed as hell because your third government-approved mental health walk of the day doesn’t hit the same any more so you’ve resorted to scrolling TikTok for hours instead. And then spending the next five years of your life feeling sorry for yourself for losing your “most formative years” to a pandemic. Fetch the Bolt Cutters remains fantastic, and I still haven’t finished my degree. / Lyric Waiwiri-Smith

A phone lock screen shows the time as 7:53 on Tuesday, 10 August. An Instagram notification covers part of the screen, saying "Replied to your story: Come to class" with various emojis, including laughing, angry, and surprised faces.
When your lecturer follows you on Instagram

‘My son could say armageddon before he was two’

I had a young baby and spending the time cooped up together, going on our daily walks and waving to our neighbours, many for the first time, felt like a gift TBH. My son could say the word armageddon before he was two. Bob Dylan released Rough and Rowdy Ways and I took that as a sign I had to analyse all the lyrics while gently churning through the “good wine” saved for the apocalypse. The absence of cars on the roads felt like we’d been catapulted into an Eden of the future – been troubled by vehicles and their speeds down our family-riddled street ever since. / Claire Mabey

Wearing rubber gloves to pat a puppy

I was living in a flat that had a tiny self-contained sleepout in the back garden. The couple living there had just got the cutest little fluff, a black puppy that was so adorable its incessant barking was easily forgiven. We had a meeting among the weeds in the backyard. It was the perfect day, the wind was still and the sunshine warm. The sleepout dwellers decided that they’d maintain a miniature bubble, just the three of them, instead of joining us four potential germ vectors.

The problem was that there was no fence between us, and the little pup had grown accustomed to our attention and affection. Negotiations on physical contact with the needy fluff were tense. It was decided we were only allowed to pat him if we wore dishwashing gloves. / Gabi Lardies

Stanley watches a 1pm briefing

A moment of enforced neighbourly cheer

I lived alone in an apartment building but luckily I had a new dog to keep me company. Also, I was working pretty much constantly for this here website, so that helped pass the hours (as did drinking alone and listening to Fetch the Bolt Cutters – shoutout to Lyric, my lockdown kindred spirit years before we’d even met).

There are a few traumatic memories, however (like the time I locked myself out of the apartment and Stanley the dog was stuck inside), but one that until recently had been buried deep is this: inspired by overseas lockdown Insta content, a prominent radio personality who lived in my building decided to enforce some neighbourly camaraderie by getting us to all come out onto our balconies and sing Queen’s ‘I Want to Break Free’ in unison, while she filmed us.

I’d hoped the resulting content had featured only on her stories and thus was long gone, but scrolling back, I have regretfully discovered it’s still there, immortalised for all eternity as a post. Watching it now, it’s actually kind of sweet, with toddlers and old people alike having a dance on their balconies,  but there’s also me, standing there gormlessly, dog in my arms, not exactly getting into it. I could swear I was singing, quietly, but c’mon, that’s not an easy tune to belt out, and really I just wanted to go back inside to repeatedly refresh the locations of interest* while Stanley chewed through another Macbook charger. / Alice Neville

*Update, 9.30am, March 25: Alice has now realised that the locations of interest website launched in the second lockdown in August 2020, so this memory is not 100% factually accurate, but the sentiment stands.

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When Auckland suddenly cared about the Blues

New Zealand moved to level one Covid restrictions on June 8, and a nation had never felt smugger. The following weekend Aucklanders celebrated their ability to gather en masse again by doing something truly out of character: attending a Super Rugby match. While the rest of the world watched their favourite teams play in eerily empty stadiums with fake crowd noise pumped in and cardboard cutout fans watching on, Eden Park was filled with 36,000 (or 43,000 according the TV commentary) unmasked punters waving flags like we’d just won the war – a utopian vision not just of a world without Covid, but a New Zealand where afternoon rugby was allowed to exist. / Calum Henderson

Hours-long Zoom parties

It is so so funny to think about it now but there really was a time when it was completely normal to open your laptop, start a video call with a group of friends, and then just drink or do literally nothing in front of your screen for hours. No one was doing anything and yet there was so much to talk about.

My favourite hectic Zoom party was a leaving party for one beloved Spinoff staffer. Everyone got dressed up, there were formalities and speeches, and the “afters”. The “afters” lasted like five hours, with people occasionally leaving the call to have dinner or put their kids to bed and then returning an hour later with a fresh drink. It somehow wasn’t even that awkward? But it never happened again. Even the later lockdowns couldn’t replicate the sheer determination to spend virtual time together. / Madeleine Chapman

A screenshot shows a Metro article on the left with a photo of a dog and headline about pets during lockdown. On the right is a hand-drawn image of a house with "us in our house" and "other doggies" labeled outside.
Cute dog, a magazine that had eight days to live, absolutely disgusting nails (Image: Anna Rawhiti-Connell)

Exploiting my dog for fame, zero fortune and desperate laughs

A mate of mine was working at Metro and put the call out for some cute animal stories almost immediately after the first lockdown was announced. In hindsight, these were the halcyon days of lockdown life. We still had some wits about us to know people might like a bit of light comfort, news hadn’t gotten grindingly grim and we were also panicking about dying/losing our jobs. Gratuitous dog content? Why the fuck not!

We filled in a little questionnaire, and Albie, the naughty puppy, had his two minutes of minor fame being flogged online as a comfort during weird times. “We have to walk him,” I said back when walks were still a fun adventure, “so that helps a lot because otherwise I’d be living my worst life under the duvet. He’s very funny and unlike other dogs, is not demonstrably in love with us being home all day.” As it turns out, his attitude towards us being home all day wasn’t a reaction to unusual times but his personality. Metro was shut down eight days later when Bauer announced the closure of its New Zealand operation on April 2. I believe this to be unrelated to Albie or my mate’s editorial decision to do animal features.

Near the end of that first lockdown, on May 13, we slipped a question to Claire Trevett at the NZ Herald requesting clarification about whether dogs could play together and touch and whether we could pat other dogs. I do not remember why this needed clarification, but Trevett was a true hero for asking this ridiculous question, and Bloomfield was a good sport for answering it. / Anna Rawhiti-Connell