A Mother

Parents
May 9, 2018

When Mother's Day hurts...

For many, Mother's Day isn't a day of celebration. Here, a mother explains why she finds Mother's Day so tough.

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Parents
May 6, 2018

A letter to my son's birth mother

Today, the Sunday before Mother's Day, is recognised by some as 'Birth Mother's Day'. Here a mother writes in celebration of the woman who gave birth to her son.

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Parents
Mar 20, 2018

Loving and leaving my drug addicted partner

A mother writes of her journey of love and loss in this beautiful personal essay about trying to raise children around addiction.

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Parents
Mar 13, 2018

‘Go to the police and tell your parents’: A sexual assault survivor’s story

Whenever the media covers a high profile case of sexual assault there's a chorus saying the survivor should have gone to the police or their parents. The latest example: the sexual assault allegations in relation to last month's Labour Party youth camp. Writing anonymously, a survivor explains why such comments are so unhelpful.

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Parents
Mar 12, 2018

A mum begs Pasifika and Māori parents and friends to join the school board

The only Pasifika woman on a school board talks about the dangers of a lack of diversity on school boards – and makes a plea for other parents to support their schools.

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Parents
Feb 22, 2018

What it’s like to parent a child with severe anxiety

Behind closed doors, and in public facing judgement and contempt, mothers and fathers are doing their best to support their children through anxiety and other mental health issues. Here is one mother's story.

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Parents
Nov 30, 2017

My abortion wasn’t a choice

While you are reading this a mother somewhere in the country is making the heartbreaking decision to terminate a wanted pregnancy. Continuing our series of real stories of abortion, one mother shares what it's like to have a termination for medical reasons.

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Parents
Nov 27, 2017

My parents were stoners – and I’m a parent who uses too

A mother shares her story of growing up around marijuana, and using marijuana now she is a parent herself.

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Parents
Nov 23, 2017

My parents were stoners and that’s why I don’t want marijuana legalised

A public referendum on legalising cannabis for personal use may be held by the 2020 election as part of a possible agreement between the Green and Labour parties. One mother shares her own story to explain why she's desperately hoping legalisation won't happen.

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Parents
Sep 4, 2017

Sex work is how I support my family

How would you earn your living if you and your child had a severe disability? One mother shares how she has found a job that makes her life just a little easier.

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Parents
Jul 10, 2017

What milestones mean when your baby stopped breathing for 11 minutes at birth

When this mother gave birth, her daughter was unable to breathe on her own – for 11 long, agonising minutes. These days she has a different attitude to the developmental milestones that many parents take for granted.

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Parents
Jun 29, 2017

The Masterbatorium: A queer experience of conceiving

As we near the end of Pride Month, the Spinoff Parents is sharing some stories from Rainbow families. First off, a story of getting pregnant from a lesbian couple who wish to remain anonymous.

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Parents
May 18, 2017

Abuse doesn’t always look like black eyes and bruised ribs

A mother writes about surviving and escaping an emotionally abusive relationship, to encourage others to find help should they need it.

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Parents
Mar 22, 2017

‘I started to get sicker. And sicker.’ What it’s like renting from a slumlord when you’re a chronically ill parent

Think your rental situation is tough? Try living with a chronic medical condition in a dark, mould-infested dump - and with a child to care for. One anonymous renter tells her story.

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Parents
Mar 13, 2017

To the staff of Wellington Hospital’s Te Mahoe clinic: This is what you did for me when you gave me an abortion

More than 13,000 abortions were performed in New Zealand last year, yet the reasons why women have one remain largely hidden. One reason for the secrecy: the stigma of abortion, exacerbated by its inclusion in the Crimes Act, a situation PM Bill English says he has no interest in rectifying. Here one anonymous mother explains why an abortion was the right choice for her.

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Parents
Mar 2, 2017

The black cloud: How I survived my postnatal depression to live again

This is what depression does. It feeds you lies.' In this anonymous post, a mother talks about how her journey through postnatal depression and out the other side – and implores us to talk about it to save other parents going through the same thing.

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Parents
Feb 27, 2017

My husband, the sperm donor: confronting the truth about the children whose names we don’t even know

An anonymous mother shares her story of marrying a man who has donated sperm multiple times – and the ongoing impact of decisions made more than a decade ago.

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