Ms. X

Ms. X is The Spinoff’s advice columnist.

Television
Apr 24, 2017

They need more support than Spanx: A therapist on the The Bachelor NZ and mental health

The Spinoff’s in-house therapist Ms X returns after reading a concerning article about The Bachelor NZ contestant Claudia Hoskins.

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Society
Jan 29, 2017

Hello Caller: Help! I'm scared of my sexual fantasies

In her final column for The Spinoff, in-house therapist Ms X answers the question: when do disturbing sexual fantasies become a cause for concern?

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Society
Jan 17, 2017

I think I may have been filmed having sex. What do I do now?

Advice columnist Ms X advises a reader who suspects she's been the unwitting subject of a secret sex tape. Plus – is being a Coldplay fan a dating dealbreaker?

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Society
Dec 21, 2016

Dear Ms X: I loathe everything about Christmas. How can I cope with my innate Grinchiness?

Tis the season to be jolly? Oh fa-la-la-la-f**k off. If you hate Christmas, in-house therapist Ms X feels your pain and has some tips for getting through the season.

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Society
Dec 17, 2016

Dear Ms X: Why can’t people just shut the hell up about my weight?

What gives people the idea that they're entitled to comment on your weight, or your appearance, or your eating habits? Our in-house therapist helps one reader deal with the endless unsolicited opinions.

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Society
Dec 10, 2016

Dear Ms X: Am I addicted to Facebook? A Hello Caller therapy session special

When does heavy social media use become a problem? In-house therapist Ms X discusses good and bad Facebook usage, and strategies for breaking the network's vice-like hold on your day-to-day life.

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Society
Dec 3, 2016

Hello Caller: I’m the calmest person I know. Am I good at coping, or am I actually dead inside?

Is being a super serene person a sign of good mental health – or does it mean you're a secret sociopath? In-house therapist Ms X weighs in.

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Society
Nov 26, 2016

Hello Caller: I’m spending New Years with my ex. How can I make this not suck?

Being forced to socialise with the person who broke your heart is hard enough at the best of times, says in-house counsellor Ms X – but mix in end-of-year emotion and plenty of alcohol and you've got a combustible situation.

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Society
Nov 19, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! How can I live peaceably with my adult children when I really, really want them gone?

In-house counsellor Ms X shares some tips on how to flat with your grown-up kids – without killing each other.

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Society
Nov 12, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! I think I’m about to be laid off. Again

In this week's advice column: how to deal with losing your job without losing your shit.

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Society
Nov 5, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! My boyfriend never wants to have sex

Lack of libido is not just a female issue, says our in-house therapist Ms X – and doing nothing is only going to make the problem worse.

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Society
Oct 29, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! Sexting creeps me out. Do I still have to do it?

Online dating brings with it a whole heap of questions about expectations and etiquette, not least the vexed issue of sexting. Should I? Must I? Ms X has some advice.

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Society
Oct 22, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! I’ve a huge crush on a guy – but how do I compete with girls who are cooler and prettier than me?

This week, a teenage special: Ms. X advises a uni student with a crush on an older guy, and a teen girl grossed out by hearing her sister having loud sex.

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Society
Oct 15, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! How do I get my creepy flatmate to move out?

This week Ms X advises a letter writer who can't stand her flatmate – but suspects she might be the problem, not him.

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Society
Oct 8, 2016

Hello Caller: Help! I hate my job with a passion, but is it too soon to quit?

Trained psychotherapist and resident advice guru Ms X on shitty jobs and the fine art of knowing when to walk away.

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Media
Oct 1, 2016

Hello Caller: When do you know it’s time to say goodbye to a rocky relationship?

In-house psychotherapist Ms. X has some good advice for couples stuck in the fight/make up/fight rut.

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Society
Sep 24, 2016

Hello Caller: I think my underage sister and her boyfriend are having sex. What should I do?

In this week's advice column, in-house psychotherapist Ms. X helps out a concerned big sister.

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Media
Sep 17, 2016

Hello Caller: I’ve fronted up on a major scandal, so why won’t people accept my apology?

In-house psychotherapist Ms X helps out a senior rugby administrator in an apology-shaped pickle.

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Society
Sep 9, 2016

Hello Caller: I want to ditch my terrible friend. Do I owe her an explanation?

There's no reason to feel guilty about pulling the plug on a toxic friendship, says in-house psychotherapist Ms X.

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Media
Sep 2, 2016

Hello Caller: Our cat has us under purr-veillance. What should we do with it while we have sex?

This week Ms. X tackles a problem familiar to every coupled-up cat-owner in the country: why does it insist on staring at us while we're getting down to business?

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Media
Aug 26, 2016

Hello Caller: Getting burnt on Tinder? Join the club

Racists, body shamers and wannabe pickup artists: This week, Ms. X shares some terrible Tinder profiles supplied by you, her readers.

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Society
Aug 19, 2016

Hello Caller: My friends want me to join their threesome. How do I tell them I’m not interested?

This week, psychotherapist Ms X advises a single woman who finds herself suddenly "sexual catnip" to her coupled friends.

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Media
Aug 12, 2016

Hello Caller: My boyfriend has announced he’s gay. I’m heartbroken – so why are my friends laughing?

In this week's advice column, psychotherapist Ms X counsels a woman struggling to adjust to life as her ex's straight sidekick.

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Aug 5, 2016

Hello Caller: One brave woman shares her real-life Tinder nightmare

This week, a special reader's response on dealing with dating bullshit, and Ms X annotates a genuine Tinder conversation that quickly goes south.

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Media
Jul 29, 2016

Hello Caller: ‘I suck at dating – so should I give the douchebag I’m seeing another chance?’

This week: psychotherapist Ms X on settling for second best, dating dry patches, and knowing when to kick him to the kerb.

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Media
Jul 22, 2016

Hello Caller: “My mother wants to try online dating. How do I talk her out of it?”

In this week's advice column, Ms. X counsels a daughter who is flipping out over her mother's search for online romance.

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