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Several members of the Wesley Primary School bike train in their matching high-vis vests.
The Wesley Primary School bike train (Photos: Supplied / Design: Tina Tiller)

SocietyAugust 17, 2023

Getting kids on their bikes and off to school

Several members of the Wesley Primary School bike train in their matching high-vis vests.
The Wesley Primary School bike train (Photos: Supplied / Design: Tina Tiller)

While it was once a common sight, biking to school has become increasingly rare in Aotearoa. Tommy de Silva meets the people working to change that through a simple but effective initiative, and tags along on an Auckland bike train.

After school one drizzly, grey Auckland afternoon recently, I joined pupils from Wesley Primary, in the Auckland suburb of Mount Roskill, on their bike ride home. When it’s raining, I usually swap my bike for the train, but the kids were unfazed – so I rustled up some childlike exuberance as they donned their matching high-vis vests and KidsCan rain jackets.

These days, New Zealand children biking to school is rare – in 2014 only 2% did it, compared to 12% as recently as 1990. According to a 2022 global study, 55% of tamariki in Aotearoa travel to school by car.

But there’s an initiative that’s helping kids to buck that trend – the bike train. Essentially walking school buses for bicycles, bike trains have adult supervisors who train children to safely cycle to school and escort them on their journey. Ultimately, the goal is to teach the necessary safety skills to the point where kids can independently travel to and from school. Being on wheels allows bike trains to cover more ground than traditional walking school buses can. 

Leora Karon and the Wesley Primary bike train.
Some members of the Wesley Primary bike train. (Photo: Supplied)

Leora Karon, who runs Wesley Primary’s bike train, tries to recruit kids who can’t easily walk to school and whose parents don’t have time to ride with them. One of the aims is to reduce congestion and transport emissions around the school, she says. The school’s bike train is propped up by Auckland Transport’s Ngā Tiriti Ngangahau/Vibrant Streets programme (a $3 million fund delivered by AT over the first three years of Te Tāruke-ā-Tāwhiri: Auckland Council’s 10-year climate action package). When I cycled with Wesley’s bike train, the tamariki led me on a route past parks and along wide-bermed, quiet residential streets. The oldest kid, Leroy, was new to the bike train – Karon only taught him to ride last term – so two young sisters took the lead. At each crossing, they dismounted, checked for cars and only crossed after quadruple-checking it was safe, a trick Karon taught them.

Leora Karon.
Leora Karon (Photo: Supplied)

When the tamariki arrived home, they waved us goodbye with big grins – their mood unaffected by the drizzle – as we cycled onward. Although it only started last term, the bike train has been popular, quickly doubling in size to 14 kids on an average day out of a roll of 170. “We went from no kids cycling to just under 10% of kids riding to school,” Karon says. She admits it took hand-holding and shepherding to get here, but she wanted to ensure the bike train would endure without her. Last term, she rode with the first cohort, teaching them how to safely cycle. After a term of safety training, the tamariki now safely ride independently – Karon’s safety tricks made Wesley Primary’s bike train sustainable and enduring. But the relatively good (by New Zealand standards) bike infrastructure near the school also helped. 

Richard Barter was the local board chairperson who installed the infrastructure that made his neighbourhood safe for kids to cycle. Bike lanes are a hard sell for any New Zealand politician, but Barter identified that most opposition to cycleways comes from removing car infrastructure. Barter laid out Roskill’s bike network without aggravating drivers by constructing shared paths along wide-bermed roads – to not remove car parks – and installing greenways through parks. By “not taking up roads and carparks, we could create infrastructure without a lot of pushback from the community”, Barter explains. The southwestern motorway shared path “created a spine in the network. Oakley Creek has a series of reserves, and we have a number of other natural assets which created the opportunity to put paths in”, he elaborates.

Richard Barter fixes bikes at Wesley Primary School.
Richard Barter fixes bikes at Wesley Primary School (Image: supplied)

Because the school neighbours Oakley Creek, Wesley Primary’s bike train can make use of the safe cycleways Barter championed. He commends Karon for getting Wesley’s bike train rolling, explaining that she “changed the way young people, parents and school staff think about riding bicycles”. One reason Karon’s bike train rides along Barter’s off-road paths is because she is keen to prevent issues at driveways, which are particularly dangerous for children cycling – as parents in the Auckland suburb of Point Chevalier discovered the hard way. 

In 2019, about half a dozen Point Chevalier kids were hit by cars exiting driveways. Afterwards, 100 local tamariki delivered driveway safety flyers to 3,500 homes, and since then, safety has improved. But local parent Matt Fordham explains the campaign wouldn’t have succeeded without the bike train community behind it. Founded by Fordham seven years ago, Point Chevalier Primary’s bike train is the shining example other schools emulate. Although Karon modelled Wesley’s bike train off Fordham’s, there is a stark infrastructure difference between the two areas. Whereas Wesley Primary benefits from Roskill’s off-road, shared paths, Point Chevalier students must cycle solely on the footpath because cycleways are nonexistent in their suburb. Nonetheless, the suburb’s percentage of kids biking to school is much higher than the rest of Auckland, 8.3% in Point Chevalier east and 14% in Point Chevalier west, compared to a citywide average of 1.5%.

Matt Fordham and his family.
Matt Fordham and his family in 2018. (Photo: Auckland Council)

Without Point Chevalier’s bike train, there are “no safe ways for kids to bike to school”, Fordham explains. The bike train provides tamariki with in-depth safety training since their area lacks cycling infrastructure. Parents teach kids to share footpaths “with old ladies, people with dogs and wheelchair users”, he says. Over seven years, the bike train has become a community staple, and locals now expect to see kids cycling dressed in their high-vis. Like Wesley, Point Chevalier’s bike train rides rain or shine: “It doesn’t matter the weather. It was going this morning through hail!” Fordham says.

Some pupils do 1,000-plus rides, after which “they know the local streets better than their parents. They are some of the most aware cyclists in the city”. Through those many rides, tamariki gain new friends. Kids who used to be a drag to get into the car for school now race out the door to not miss a ride with their mates, Fordham explains. (Similarly, at Wesley Primary, staff correlated several pupils’ attendance improving to them joining the bike train). There are six families in Fordham’s block that his whānau met through the bike train, and all their similarly aged kids have become friends through the initiative. “The community depth it gives you is wicked,” he says. Parents also benefit by joining a caring, supportive network who lean on each other for support. 

Examples of micro-mobility in Point Chevalier, including kids and parents being forced to illegally bike on the footpath.
Photos of locals getting around Point Chevalier, including the bike train. (Image: Supplied)

They look after each other’s kids and take pressure off one another by taking turns chaperoning the bike train to and from school. “If you can get a couple of parents to take dozens of kids to school, you free up dozens of other parents,” Fordham explains. Currently, he is only rostered once weekly, which he says “saves me so much time, having multiple days a week I don’t have to take my kids to school”. He notes that parents who drive their kids to school are more likely to make other trips by car, which consequently motivates their kids to drive once they can – even though getting behind the wheel of a gas guzzler worsens the climate crisis. 

Still proudly wearing their bike train high-vis gear, “graduates who are now year seven and eight have taken cycling advocacy into intermediate school and will take it to high school. They feel empowered because they are actually doing something about it [the climate crisis],” says Fordham. Karon hopes that will happen with Wesley’s students too. She says her bike train mahi came from the perspective of reducing carbon emissions. “You can spend a lot of money trying to change the behaviour of a 40-year-old, but kids already want to be active and outdoors,” Fordham explains, adding that, after all, “these kids are the ones we expect to live a carbon zero lifestyle in 2050.”

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SocietyAugust 17, 2023

Help Me Hera: My friend has fallen victim to a romantic scam

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My friend met a guy on a dating app and he keeps borrowing money from her without paying it back. How do I convince her she’s part of an emotional Ponzi scheme?

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Dear Hera,

My friend met a guy on Bumble.  It was great and pretty “normal” for a few weeks, but then he started asking her for money. There’s always a valid excuse or reason, but the requests just keep coming.  She says “he’s just going through a lot” or “he’s having a tough time right now.”

It’s been about eight months now and he hasn’t paid any of it back, and is still asking her for more. She won’t tell me how much but I know it’s a lot. He’s in his late 30s, employed full-time.

He won’t tell her his address, so has never invited her to his house. He says he wants to take it slow as he’s been hurt badly in the past. They’ve only been physically intimate once, as he doesn’t like to stay over at her house.

He rings her at least twice a day but he gets moody and short-tempered if she says the wrong thing. The most innocuous things seem to wind him up and she has to apologise before he’ll talk to her again.

She vacillates between worry and frustration at what’s happening and guilt that she’s not being “understanding enough.”  She doesn’t seem like she’s having any fun, on any level, and yet says she’s “falling for him.”

My advice to her (apart from saying he seems lame and she needs to dump him) has been this: relationships require reciprocity. At a basic level, no matter what the nature of your relationship, you need to be getting something positive out of it, whether that’s hugs or S&M or whatever. But she’s not getting anything except anxiety and financial distress, as far as I can tell.

How can I get through to her and help her get away from this parasite in the form of a human man??

Best regards, 

Or Should I Just Mind My Own Business?

Dear OSIJMMOB,

I wouldn’t worry if I were you. This is actually how I met my current partner, Bjorn Fakenamison. He lives in Iceland, and we’ve been together for almost 10 years. We’ve never met in person, but he’s planning to visit just as soon as the portable aquarium business I’ve been helping him bankroll takes off. 

To be honest, at this point, I’m not even sure if what your friend has technically qualifies as a relationship. Is a relationship a relationship if it’s also transparently a scam? It’s not just the money – after all, many historically successful marriages were based on the redistribution of capital. But it sounds like this guy isn’t even remotely interested in your friend, beyond what’s left in her bank account. 

How do you convince someone their relationship is an emotional Ponzi scheme? The reality is there might not be an easy way to get through to her. Trying to help a friend when they’re caught up with someone you know isn’t good for them is notoriously fraught, and often futile. 

I don’t mean to belittle your friend’s choices. Hope is a powerful and intoxicating thing. Obviously, this guy means something to her if she’s willing to overlook so many glaring warning signals. Perhaps he has a lovely phone manner. She clearly has a lot invested in this, both emotionally and financially, which means she’s likely going to be resistant to hearing her boyfriend is a human pyramid scheme. 

She likely already knows this guy is bad news, and is clearly ashamed about lending him so much money, although I think the word “lending” in this context has an unearned optimism. But the more she invests in him – time, hope, money – the harder it’s going to be for her to cut her losses and admit she was hoodwinked. She’s suffering from a terminal case of sunken cost fallacy. 

Your friend may be gullible. But this guy is obviously a good manipulator. His moodiness and short temper aren’t just character flaws. They’re strategies. He’s purposefully making mountains out of molehills in order to keep her on edge. If all her energy is directed towards minor things, like worrying about saying the wrong thing over the phone, she’s unlikely to have the courage or energy to call him out on the big stuff, like not knowing where he lives, why they never sleep together, and when he’s going to start paying her back. 

That doesn’t mean your friend will appreciate your input. How hard to push when it comes to expressing concern about a friend’s partner, depends a lot on your friend’s personality, and the level of trust in your relationship. Can you talk about difficult things? Will she retreat at the first sign of confrontation? Could you encourage her to talk to a therapist or counsellor? She might be more receptive to hearing she’s dating a dirtbag from a licensed professional. 

If you push someone too hard before they’re ready to acknowledge a painful truth, you run the risk of annoying or embarrassing them so badly you inadvertently push them deeper into the relationship you want to see them out of. But it’s also no good standing silently by as your friend decimates her life savings in order to fund the lifestyle of some guy who won’t even tell her where he lives. 

If I were you, I’d do some basic investigating on your friend’s behalf. Eighty five percent of the time, if you’re “dating” someone, but you’ve never been to their house or met any of their friends and they won’t stay the night, it means they’re married. And even if they’re not married, it’s not like the other 15% of scenarios are looking any better. Can you verify his identity? Does he have a social media presence? Has your friend ever met anyone who works with or knows him? She might consider you playing Nancy Drew a breach of trust, but the only thing that seems even remotely likely to change her mind, besides bitter experience, is evidence he’s lying about some fundamental aspect of his identity. But even if you find proof, it doesn’t mean your friend will thank you for it, or even necessarily break up with him. 

This is obviously an exasperating and upsetting situation, and it sounds like you’re doing the best you can. There is no perfect course of action here. Sometimes the best you can do is express reasonable concern, try and remind her what a healthy relationship looks like, and otherwise be patient. It might take her time to hear the truth of what you’ve been saying. But sometimes the best thing you can do is just stay in the picture. A scammer’s best strategy is to isolate his victims. So keep checking in with her. Let her know you care, and are there if she needs you. Hopefully she’ll snap out of it, before she’s well and truly bankrupt.

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