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Help Me Hera: I can’t stand my mum’s insufferable boyfriend

Help Me Hera: I can’t stand my mum’s insufferable boyfriend

The thought of spending another Christmas with him is bringing me out in anticipatory hives.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 4th December, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I am completely out of beans

Help Me Hera: I am completely out of beans

How do I recapture the joyful energy of my 20s? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 27th November, 2025
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Help Me Hera: A beloved artist hates me for no reason

Help Me Hera: A beloved artist hates me for no reason

All my friends love and admire her. How can I get over this?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 20th November, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m struggling with my ‘body count’

Help Me Hera: I’m struggling with my ‘body count’

I don't want to stop having sex, but I can’t shake that creeping feeling of shame and it’s lowering my sense of self-worth.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 13th November, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I’m dating a porn addict

Help Me Hera: I’m dating a porn addict

How on earth do I decide when enough is enough?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 6th November, 2025
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Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my age gap relationship?

Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my age gap relationship?

I'm 21 and she's 29. Is it wrong that I find it hot? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 30th October, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m scared to leave home

Help Me Hera: I’m scared to leave home

I'm 25 and still living with my parents. I can afford to move out... so why haven't I?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 23rd October, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I don’t really care about love or dating

Help Me Hera: I don’t really care about love or dating

I'm happily single – why do some people seem to have a problem with that?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 16th October, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I regret the way I left my ex – is it too late to say something?

Help Me Hera: I regret the way I left my ex – is it too late to say something?

I can't bear the thought of them hating me. 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 9th October, 2025
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Help Me Hera: How do I demote my best friend without hurting their feelings?

Help Me Hera: How do I demote my best friend without hurting their feelings?

We used to be extremely close, but I just don't feel the same. 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 2nd October, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My partner and I can’t have kids

Help Me Hera: My partner and I can’t have kids

How do I handle the wildly insensitive comments from friends and family?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 25th September, 2025
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Help Me Hera: My evil former boss continues to haunt me

Help Me Hera: My evil former boss continues to haunt me

He made my life miserable before I quit. Now he's taking all the credit for a project I worked on.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 18th September, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do I survive Christmas with my cheating brother-in-law?

Help Me Hera: How do I survive Christmas with my cheating brother-in-law?

My sister says she's forgiven him, but I don't know if I can look him in the eye.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 11th September, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do I give up on the idea of finding love?

Help Me Hera: How do I give up on the idea of finding love?

If I hear 'it'll happen when you least expect it' one more time, I'm going to scream.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 4th September, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I can’t stop stalking my boyfriend’s ex on Instagram

Help Me Hera: I can’t stop stalking my boyfriend’s ex on Instagram

I know it’s just my own insecurity, but I can’t help feeling like a consolation prize. 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 28th August, 2025
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Help Me Hera: My partner is not a finance bro

Help Me Hera: My partner is not a finance bro

He's generous with his money, but I'm starting to worry about our financial future together. 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 21st August, 2025
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Help Me Hera: Should I leave my long-term relationship?

Help Me Hera: Should I leave my long-term relationship?

I feel like I'm tricking my girlfriend into staying with me under false pretences. 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 14th August, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I just met the perfect guy. But there’s a catch

Help Me Hera: I just met the perfect guy. But there’s a catch

He wants to have kids and I don't. Is there any salvaging this? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 7th August, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I was a gifted kid who never lived up to my potential

Help Me Hera: I was a gifted kid who never lived up to my potential

I'm happily married with a house and a career now. So why do I feel like such a failure?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 31st July, 2025
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Help Me Hera: There aren’t enough hours in the day

Help Me Hera: There aren’t enough hours in the day

There's so much I want to do before I die, and nowhere near enough time to do it.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 24th July, 2025
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