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Help Me Hera: My neighbour’s loud snoring is making me homicidal

Help Me Hera: My neighbour’s loud snoring is making me homicidal

Is there a polite way to ask her to shut up? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 16th July, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I can’t tell if my writing is any good or not

Help Me Hera: I can’t tell if my writing is any good or not

I haven't lost my taste when it comes to the work of others, but I've lost all ability to judge my own.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 9th July, 2026
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Help Me Hera: Should I befriend the office slacker?

Help Me Hera: Should I befriend the office slacker?

Or will this tank my professional reputation? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 2nd July, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Why am I always stuck hosting play dates?

Help Me Hera: Why am I always stuck hosting play dates?

Will I ever get an afternoon off?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 25th June, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Should I make amends with my former MFA cohort?

Help Me Hera: Should I make amends with my former MFA cohort?

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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 18th June, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I feel trapped in my loving relationship

Help Me Hera: I feel trapped in my loving relationship

We've been together for all of our adult lives. Is it time to move on? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 11th June, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m 24 and moving back in with my parents

Help Me Hera: I’m 24 and moving back in with my parents

Why do I feel like such a failure? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 4th June, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My new boyfriend doesn’t eat sugar

Help Me Hera: My new boyfriend doesn’t eat sugar

Can I have my cake and eat it too?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 28th May, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do I cope with my straight friends’ disappointing boyfriends?

Help Me Hera: How do I cope with my straight friends’ disappointing boyfriends?

Are my standards too high? Or is the bar in hell.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 21st May, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m pregnant and I hate my job

Help Me Hera: I’m pregnant and I hate my job

How do I survive the next few months until maternity leave?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 14th May, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Should I write a tell-all memoir?

Help Me Hera: Should I write a tell-all memoir?

Why does the idea feel so gross to me – and is it a sign I shouldn't do it?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 7th May, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do I clean the house while having ADHD?

Help Me Hera: How do I clean the house while having ADHD?

I'm a male feminist but I'm so bad at housework.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 30th April, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My coworkers’ throat-clearing is driving me nuts

Help Me Hera: My coworkers’ throat-clearing is driving me nuts

I think I probably have misophonia, but what can I actually do about it? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 23rd April, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My perfect relationship turned out to be a fantasy

Help Me Hera: My perfect relationship turned out to be a fantasy

He moved on in the blink of an eye, and I'm still picking up the pieces.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 16th April, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Should I share my relationship baggage with a new partner?

Help Me Hera: Should I share my relationship baggage with a new partner?

How soon is too soon?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 9th April, 2026
Contributing writer
Help me Hera: I can’t stop blaming myself for a break-up

Help me Hera: I can’t stop blaming myself for a break-up

My heart is broken, and it feels like it's all my fault.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 2nd April, 2026
Contributing writer
Help me Hera: How do I stop my persistent negative thoughts?

Help me Hera: How do I stop my persistent negative thoughts?

My life is better than ever. So why can't I turn off my inner self-critic?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 26th March, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m an asexual woman, worried about my future

Help Me Hera: I’m an asexual woman, worried about my future

Will I be alone forever?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 19th March, 2026
Contributing writer
Help me Hera: My best friend is trying to sabotage my relationship

Help me Hera: My best friend is trying to sabotage my relationship

Is it 'man-centred' to choose my boyfriend over her?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 12th March, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Is the world ending?

Help Me Hera: Is the world ending?

And if so, should I be having more gay sex? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 5th March, 2026
Contributing writer

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