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Help Me Hera: Someone in my niche creative community hates me for no reason

Help Me Hera: Someone in my niche creative community hates me for no reason

All I want is an apology for his rude behaviour. Is that too much to ask? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 26th February, 2026
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Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my partner’s lack of friends?

Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my partner’s lack of friends?

Is there something wrong with him, or is he just Scottish?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 19th February, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do you make peace when plans fall apart?

Help Me Hera: How do you make peace when plans fall apart?

I feel betrayed by my friends' flakiness – though I don’t know if I'm being entirely fair.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 12th February, 2026
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Help Me Hera: Should I confess my feelings to a friend?

Help Me Hera: Should I confess my feelings to a friend?

They're back together with their long-term partner, but I'm still not over our fling.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 5th February, 2026
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Help Me Hera: Should I move home to New Zealand?

Help Me Hera: Should I move home to New Zealand?

I want to come back, but it seems like the economy is a sinking ship.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 29th January, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I can’t get over an old hookup

Help Me Hera: I can’t get over an old hookup

It's been three years, and I still can't stop thinking about him.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 22nd January, 2026
Contributing writer
Help me Hera: Am I too ugly for love?

Help me Hera: Am I too ugly for love?

How can I feel better about myself in a world obsessed with physical beauty?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 15th January, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: How do I make friends with New Zealanders?

Help Me Hera: How do I make friends with New Zealanders?

I moved here three years ago, and I've yet to make any local friends. What am I doing wrong? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 8th January, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My child has terrible taste in music

Help Me Hera: My child has terrible taste in music

How do I deal with the fact my own flesh and blood would rather listen to Mumford & Sons than Talking Heads?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 1st January, 2026
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My in-laws are terrible gift givers

Help Me Hera: My in-laws are terrible gift givers

Their other kids get fancy appliances. We get second hand bric-a-brac. What gives?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 25th December, 2025
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Help Me Hera: A festive miscellany of advice

Help Me Hera: A festive miscellany of advice

A smorgasbord of wisdom for almost every possible situation.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 18th December, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: My closest friends don’t read my blog

Help Me Hera: My closest friends don’t read my blog

Do they all hate me? Or am I just a narcissist? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 11th December, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I can’t stand my mum’s insufferable boyfriend

Help Me Hera: I can’t stand my mum’s insufferable boyfriend

The thought of spending another Christmas with him is bringing me out in anticipatory hives.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 4th December, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I am completely out of beans

Help Me Hera: I am completely out of beans

How do I recapture the joyful energy of my 20s? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 27th November, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: A beloved artist hates me for no reason

Help Me Hera: A beloved artist hates me for no reason

All my friends love and admire her. How can I get over this?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 20th November, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m struggling with my ‘body count’

Help Me Hera: I’m struggling with my ‘body count’

I don't want to stop having sex, but I can’t shake that creeping feeling of shame and it’s lowering my sense of self-worth.
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 13th November, 2025
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Help Me Hera: I’m dating a porn addict

Help Me Hera: I’m dating a porn addict

How on earth do I decide when enough is enough?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 6th November, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my age gap relationship?

Help Me Hera: Should I be worried about my age gap relationship?

I'm 21 and she's 29. Is it wrong that I find it hot? 
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 30th October, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I’m scared to leave home

Help Me Hera: I’m scared to leave home

I'm 25 and still living with my parents. I can afford to move out... so why haven't I?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 23rd October, 2025
Contributing writer
Help Me Hera: I don’t really care about love or dating

Help Me Hera: I don’t really care about love or dating

I'm happily single – why do some people seem to have a problem with that?
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By Hera Lindsay Bird | 16th October, 2025
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